Relationship Vision - Daniel A Linder MFT

12/15/2025

The Three Relationships Inside Your Relationship

The end of the year always makes me pause and take stock—not just of life, but of my relationship. And this year, something surprising showed up.
I use a simple framework to understand how “balanced” a relationship is:
Me (33%) • You (33%) • Us (34%)
Ideally, all three feel nourished.

But when I looked at our relationship this year, both Taye and I were doing great individually (about 40% each)—yet our “Us” space was smaller than it should be. We were each thriving…but not as connected.
It reminded me of something I teach all the time:
There isn’t just one relationship happening … there are three:
1️⃣ Your relationship with yourself
2️⃣ Their relationship with themselves
3️⃣ The relationship you co-create together

Healthy couples learn to distinguish between them, own their own issues, and support each other in growing in all three areas.

So now, we’re talking about how to rebuild and strengthen our “Us.”
Because relationships deepen when both people stay intentional, conscious, and committed to co-creating something bigger than either one alone.

I have a client worksheet that you can use to gauge your own relationship. It is used to Reflect • Assess • Rebalance • Co-Create

Feel free to reach out to get a copy!

08/21/2025

Hey everyone! It's been a while since I promoted my latest book (if ever on FB)!
This book cracks the code to making the miracle of connection happen for yourself. It shows you the secrets to cultivating healthy, nourishing, and intimate relationships so that you can forge deeper connections than you ever imagined possible.

Having a relationship with your Self is the key to everything. It enables you to become a powerhouse of connection and to receive all the nourishment and oxytocin that goes with it. The benefits are unlimited! Your consciousness will be elevated. You will become more connectable and magnetic. Your creativity will skyrocket...and more!

Through stories, practical applications, and mindful practices, you will:
- Discover the dazzling array of superpowers lying at the core of your being.
- Develop the most important relationship of all - the relationship with your Self.
- Become a confident, charismatic, and magnetic communicator.
- For singles only: Get a working game plan to negotiate the challenges and pitfalls the first time you meet someone.

For anyone in pursuit of connection, this is your must-have guide for navigating a successful relationship journey.

You can get it using this link: https://lnkd.in/gAqaZBhR

08/07/2025

Upcoming Post-Election Support Group (PESG) Tues Aug 12th 7-8:30pm PST
(a community service that is free to the public and will be conducted on Zoom) Facilitated by Daniel Linder MFT
From where we started to now: I want to update everyone as to what the PESG had become for me. As I had continued on the track of transforming trauma by creating a safe space to share our experience and connect, for myself and everyone else.
We started as a post-election support group, but the need to address the widespread trauma of gaslighting and its increasing role in a world of AI has become clear. It’s now become, Beyond the Echo Chamber: This name speaks to the experience of being lost in a world of misinformation and gaslighting, and the group's purpose of finding a way out together.
It’s a support group that is evolving into a safe space to share and connect and to learning a lot more about the collective traumatization relentless gaslighting over the course of a decade that renders us more vulnerable. Our need to discern between what is real and what is not and begin tapping other sources of sustenance and self-care and deepening our relationship with our Selves is dire. Please contact via email at: dlindermft@gmail.com for more details or send a direct message here. We look forward to having you join!

07/01/2025

Upcoming Post-Election Support Group (PESG) Tues July 8th 7-8:30pm PST ( a community service that is free to the public and will be conducted on Zoom)
Facilitated by Daniel Linder MFT
Are you struggling in the aftermath of the election and its unfolding to this day? Feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, out of sorts? You’re not alone. We’re a collective of people who’ve been traumatized and are bottled up with unexpressed emotions. Call it a “post-election stress disorder.”
Spiked stress levels
An emotional tsunami
Running for shelter but nowhere to go
Unrelenting shock and dismay
Quality of life and relationships taking a hit
The PESG is a safe space to speak up and share our truths, to feel listened to and heard and become empowered in the process. It’s a transformational opportunity to learn about cutting edge self-care practices and for preserving our mental health during these chaotic times. Connect with others navigating similar feelings.
Together, we can build strength and resilience.

To register:
Please send your name and email to receive the Zoom link:
dlindermft@gmail.com
For more details:
📞 415-307-0532

06/18/2025

The Breaking-up Mindfully Workshop

Are you in a relationship you want out of or are looking for a way out of?

Are you looking for a way out of non-nourishing relationships and into healthy nourishing ones?

Breaking-up Mindfully is an accelerated Self empowering training that takes you through The Five Step Process for breaking up mindfully any relationship you want out of, including addictions, i.e., to drugs, alcohol, s*x, p**n, gambling, or relationships with other people that are unhealthy, dragging you down, is all consuming, generates cortisol, cuts you off from yourself and others.

It focuses on Stage I of your three stage recovery journey out of non-nourishing relationships and into nourishing ones: Stage I is Breaking -up; Stage II - Developing the Relationship with Your Self; Stage III – Creating Nourishing Relationships (requires relationship training).

These are Five Steps that will blow your mind and give you the power to say, “Good-bye.”

I Recognition
II Discovery
III Uncovering Denial
IV (Emotional) Withdrawal
V Good-bye and Hello (to your new best friend)

Breaking-up Mindfully is six week training that will meet on Zoom one night a week for 1 ½ hrs 7-8:30pm pst for the introductory rate of $297, after which the standard fee will be $597.

06/02/2025

FRIENDLY REMINDER- TOMORROW:

05/12/2025

Greetings All, we are excited to announce our third PESG meeting this coming Tuesday, June 3rd. Please reach out to participate! We look forward to seeing and hearing from you!

05/06/2025

INTRODUCING: The Breaking-up Mindfully Workshop

Are you in a relationship you want out of or are looking for a way out of?

Are you looking for a way out of non-nourishing relationships and into healthy nourishing ones?


Breaking-up Mindfully is an accelerated Self empowering training that takes you through The Five Step Process for breaking up mindfully any relationship you want out of, including addictions, i.e., to drugs, alcohol, s*x, p**n, gambling, or relationships with other people that are unhealthy, dragging you down, is all consuming, generates cortisol, cuts you off from yourself and others.


It focuses on Stage I of your three stage recovery journey out of non-nourishing relationships and into nourishing ones: Stage I is Breaking -up; Stage II - Developing the Relationship with Your Self; Stage III – Creating Nourishing Relationships (requires relationship training).

These are Five Steps that will blow your mind and give you the power to say, “Good-bye.”

I Recognition

II Discovery

III Uncovering Denial

IV (Emotional) Withdrawal

V Good-bye and Hello (to your new best friend)


Breaking-up Mindfully is six week training that will meet on Zoom one night a week for 1 ½ hrs 7-8:30pm pst for the introductory rate of $297, after which the standard fee will be $597.

Please reach out for additional information!

05/02/2025

Greetings All, we are excited to announce our second PESG meeting this coming Tuesday, May 6th. Please reach out to participate! We look forward to seeing and hearing from you!

04/04/2025

FRIENDLY REMINDER TO SIGN UP FOR OUR FIRST ZOOM CALL COMING UP APRIL 8TH

Are you struggling in the aftermath of the election?

This Post-Election Support Group (PESG) is for those:

· Feeling overwhelmed by difficult emotions and spiked stress levels.

· Struggling with the impact on their lives and relationships.

· Feeling alone, looking for a haven to share experiences and connect with others.

· Wanting to brainstorm ways to care for themselves and maintain your sanity in chaotic times.



Join the collective of individuals navigating the challenges posed by the relentless storm of chaos and seize the opportunity to grow, stand up and speak up for your unwavering truth and what matters most to you.



To register, provide name and e-mail to receive the link

For more details, contact: dlindermft@gmail.com

03/31/2025

Are you struggling in the aftermath of the election?

This Post-Election Support Group (PESG) is for those:

· Feeling overwhelmed by difficult emotions and spiked stress levels.

· Struggling with the impact on their lives and relationships.

· Feeling alone, looking for a haven to share experiences and connect with others.

· Wanting to brainstorm ways to care for themselves and maintain your sanity in chaotic times.



Join the collective of individuals navigating the challenges posed by the relentless storm of chaos and seize the opportunity to grow, stand up and speak up for your unwavering truth and what matters most to you.



To register, provide name and e-mail to receive the link

For more details, contact: dlindermft@gmail.com

02/25/2023

Pre-marital counseling readies a couple to get out of their comfort zone, enter unfamiliar territory, having conversations about things they’d never otherwise talk about on their own, while being honest and real with each other.

Learn more here: https://bit.ly/3CqfIO7