Valley Oasis Counseling

11/26/2025

"There are wounds the body never sees—quiet injuries born not of force, but of feeling. Crimes of the heart leave their marks in places no one else notices. A harsh word, a broken trust, a misunderstanding that spirals out of control—these moments carve deep grooves inside us, shaping the way we remember, the way we protect ourselves, the way we carry pain long after the moment has passed.
We replay these hurts because we want to make sense of them. We dwell on what was unfair, what was cruel, what felt like a violation of our tenderness. And with each replay, the wound digs deeper, the anger grows heavier, and a part of us becomes stuck—rooted in a past we cannot change, unable to move toward a future we deserve.
Letting go feels impossible at times. It can feel like surrendering our dignity or dismissing what we went through. But letting go is not forgetting. Letting go is choosing ourselves again. Choosing our peace over our pain.
The time to let go comes quietly—when we realize that holding on no longer serves us.
When anger stops being armor and becomes a weight.
When our resentment pulls us farther from the person we are trying to become.
When carrying the burden costs us more than releasing it ever would.
So how do we begin?
We begin gently.
We begin slowly.
We begin by choosing not to revisit the wounds unless healing is the intention.
We begin by shifting our focus from the injury to the recovery, from the memory to the meaning, from who hurt us to who loves us. Surrounding ourselves with people who hold us gently helps soften the sharpest edges of our pain. With time, trust, and compassion, we move forward—inch by inch, breath by breath.
Forgiveness is not the first step; it is the last.
It arrives only when the heart is ready, not when the mind demands it.
Finding peace within ourselves doesn’t erase what happened. It allows us to rise above it. It teaches us that the past may shape us, but it does not have to shackle us. Peace comes when we choose to release what poisons us and make room for what heals us. It comes when harmony becomes more important than hurt, when growth becomes more meaningful than grievance.
This is the quiet miracle of letting go—
not forgetting the pain,
but freeing ourselves from its hold. ✨ "
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10/22/2025

"The true work of the spirit is learning to protect its own light.
There comes a time when we must recognize the subtle shadows cast by others—those who use unspoken discontent as a gentle cage, or who try to weave a thread of guilt into the fabric of our peace.
This awareness is not a judgment, but an act of sacred boundary setting. It means listening not to the words, but to the feeling those words leave behind—that dull ache of being subtly controlled.
True maturity lies in refusing to engage in battles of implied dissatisfaction and choosing instead the quiet, brave path of honoring our own truth.
We learn that our inner peace is not a pawn in their game, and that the kindest thing we can do for our soul is to step away from the drama, refusing the subtle invitation to react, and standing firmly in the light of our Inner Liberty!"
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09/18/2025

Be brave. Be yourself!

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08/12/2025

03/06/2025

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02/17/2025

From "The Tips That Change Your Life" FB page:
“Practice the pause. When in doubt, pause. When angry, pause. When tired, pause. When stressed, pause. And when you pause, pray.” (Toby Mac)
In the rush of life, where emotions rise and decisions press, there is power in stillness.
Before reacting in anger, before making a choice clouded by doubt or exhaustion, take a moment to pause.
Let that space be a breath of clarity, a quiet reset, a chance to gather yourself before moving forward. In that pause, find wisdom. In that pause, find peace.
And if you seek guidance, let that pause become a prayer—a moment to realign with grace, patience, and understanding before stepping ahead. ❤☀ 🙏

01/27/2025

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11/06/2024

I believe in kindness and compassion.

This was written by Mary Katherine Backstrom (FB)
"Some of us went to bed last night with hope in our hearts, only to wake up feeling devastated. Others stayed up all night, wrestling with fear and uncertainty, and are still in that space now.
There are people out there celebrating today, and to be honest, this isn’t for you. It’s not that I don’t love you—but let’s be real, the winning side doesn’t need comfort.
To those of you feeling heartbroken, confused, or even fearful, I want to acknowledge something important: your grief is real, even if it feels strange or “silly” to name it as such. Grief doesn’t always mean losing a person. Sometimes it’s the loss of hope, or the realization that control was always an illusion. Whatever you’re feeling today, it’s valid, and you don’t have to brush it aside.
There is something, however, that we all need to remember—especially those of us struggling. Acceptance is the final step on this journey. It’s the place we must eventually land. Between now and that moment, there will be a range of emotions to work through—anger, sadness, disbelief—and it’s okay to take your time with each one. That process isn’t just allowed; it’s necessary.
I’m not suggesting that you rush toward acceptance, but it helps to know that’s where peace is waiting.
Someone I love deeply has been teaching me something that is helping me reclaim my own peace. When everything feels overwhelming, when the weight of it all is pressing in, it helps to make yourself small. For me, that looks like stepping outside, walking among the trees, or sitting by the water—letting the vastness of nature remind me that I am part of something so much larger.
I imagine the universe stretching endlessly around us, and I realize that while today’s struggles feel enormous, they’re just one wave in an ocean of countless others, each rising and falling in its own time.
We can no more control societal change than we can control the tides. Accepting this truth and releasing the need for control brings serenity.
The truth is, this is all so much bigger than us. No single person or election can unravel everything. Society will always wrestle with these tensions, moving forward in fits and starts. Sometimes it’s two steps forward and one step back—a dance as old as humanity itself.
I know this feels raw. I know it stings. I know the weight of these feelings. But even through all of this, it’s crucial to remember—there is hope.
There will always be hope.
It may be difficult to see right now, in the middle of the mess, and that’s okay. Hold space for your fear. Be gentle with yourself. Take the time you need to let it all breathe.
Then, when you’re ready, try stepping back and widening your lens. Let yourself become small, and look closely at where your control truly ends.
When you can see that boundary and fully accept it, I promise—that’s where healing begins.
Hang in there, friends."

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