04/30/2025
A third negative aspect of shame is that the child will not feel seen and will also not feel safe enough to share their true internal experience with their parents. They will learn overtime that my parent is not safe to show what I really feel so for example if the child shows fear of something, and the parent is dismissive or shaming of, oh, you shouldn't be afraid of that or are you able to see or whatever you want to say and then the child will say well I cannot share my anxiety my fears with my parent, so they will learn to hide these feelings and when a parent really needs to help their child and support them, they will be unable to provide.