03/16/2026
Just completed my 1rst training in the Gottman Method for couples therapy. So great to learn some new skills. Could NOT stop asking questions about full certification & even teaching the method so this is how YOUR therapists brain works.
One of the most important ideas is the 5:1 ratio.
Research shows that stable, happy couples tend to have five positive interactions for every one negative interaction during conflict. That doesn’t mean couples never argue—it means that repair, appreciation, humor, and warmth consistently outweigh criticism, defensiveness, or contempt.
In therapy, helping couples shift this ratio can change everything. When partners intentionally increase small positive moments—it creates emotional safety. And when safety is present, couples can finally work through the hard conversations instead of getting stuck.
Couples therapy isn’t about eliminating conflict.
It’s about learning how to stay connected while working through it. Helping couples build that connection is some of the most meaningful work I get to do. ❤️