03/24/2025
We all face it:
the pressure to say "yes" to things that, deep down, don't serve us or our families.
It might be volunteering for another committee at school,
agreeing to host a playdate when your house is already a whirlwind,
or even accepting an invitation that clashes with much-needed family time.
We worry about seeming rude, unhelpful, or like we're not "doing enough."
I remember once offering a piece of candy to a friend's son, and the mom, clearly uncomfortable, started rattling off justifications about why she does not want him to have the candy:
"Oh, he might choke, he's had too much sugar already, he's about to have a nap..."
I gently stopped her and said,
"It's okay to just say 'no.' You don't need to explain."
That moment really stuck with me.
The truth is:
every time we say 'yes' to something outside our family, we might be saying 'no' to what matters most within it.
It may be a "no" to quality time,
to rest,
to focusing on your own children's needs,
or even just to preserve your own sanity!
We often over-explain and justify our "no's" because we feel guilty.
We think we need a "valid" reason,
a perfectly crafted excuse.
But the reality is:
it’s not necessary.
Protecting your family's time and energy is a valid reason in itself.
"No, thank you" is a complete sentence.
Learning to say "no" without the guilt is liberating.
It's about prioritizing your family's well-being above external expectations.
It doesn't mean you're never helpful or involved—
but it means you're choosing your commitments consciously.
Start practicing.
Maybe it's declining that extra project at work.
Maybe it's saying "no" to a social engagement that feels draining.
Maybe it’s simply stating:
"That doesn't work for us right now,"
without a lengthy explanation.
The more you do it,
the easier it becomes.
And the more space you create for what truly matters:
your family, and your own well-being.
— Written by Leah Hashem, Clinical Intern at Deeper Roots Wellness 🌱