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12/09/2025

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12/04/2025

Stoic thought of the day:

“If you only feel okay when life is happy then you are not free. You are the opposite of free. You are the prisoner of your own indulgences, enslaved by your own intolerance, crippled by your own emotional weakness. You will constantly feel a need for some external comfort or validation that may or may not ever come.”- Mark Manson

This is bo***ge.

True freedom begins the moment I stop negotiating with the world for calm. The moment I stop demanding that life be gentle, the moment I stop needing someone to act differently. Please find me able to accept life as it arrives, joy or hardship, praise or criticism, order or chaos and to remain disciplined in the turbulence.

Hold the line.

11/23/2025

In the book “What You Think of Me is None of My Business” the author challanged me to write an affirmation of abundance/scarcity and how that impacts my belief on being enough.


Meditation on being enough:

I affirm today that I am enough, exactly as I am. My worth is not calculated by possessions, achievements, numbers, or praise. I may strive for growth, but I do not need abundance to be valuable. I am already whole.

Abundance may come, and abundance may go,
but my dignity, my heart, and my humanity do not rise or fall with it. I do not need excess to prove I am worthy. I do not need applause to justify my existence. I am enough in my quiet moments, I am enough in my uncertainty, I am enough when I am rebuilding.

Today, I release comparison.I release shame. I release the belief that more is the answer.I choose to believe that being is greater than having,that character is richer than wealth, that presence is more powerful than possession.

I can pursue improvement without abandoning myself. I am a work in progress—and still worthy right now.

I do not have to earn the right to rest.
I do not have to earn permission to exist.

I am not defined by scarcity.
I am not defined by abundance.
I am defined by my spirit.
By my resilience.
By my ability to stand back up.
By the discipline to pick my head up and embrace the works as it is.

Today I stand in my worth.
Absent of excess.
Free of comparison.
Grounded in truth.

I am enough.
I have always been enough.

Hold the line.

(TLDR- you/I/we, are enough)

11/19/2025

Stoic Reflection on Grief:

You do not lose someone once.
You lose them in fragments —
in doorways and photographs,
in the sound of a laugh that isn’t there.
You lose them when mornings come slowly
and the quiet is louder than any storm.
Grief doesn’t knock.
It remembers where you live
and lets itself in.

You do not lose someone once.
You lose them every time the world continues
as if nothing changed —
when everything changed.
Grief hides behind familiar corners,
waiting for your guard to drop
so it can strike without warning.
It does not fight fair.
It hits when you are tired
and whispers that you deserve the pain.

You do not lose someone once.
You lose them in birthdays with no candles,
in dinners with empty chairs,
in victories with no one to call.
You lose them in moments of joy —
because joy was once shared.
And the heart remembers what it used to have.

But grief is not a punishment.
It is the cost of having loved.
It is the echo of loyalty.
And one day — not quickly, not easily —
you learn not to outrun the waves
but to stand in them.
To breathe while the water rises.
To say “Yes, it hurts… and yes, I will live anyway.”

There is no end to grief —
but there is growth within it.
You learn not how to forget,
but how to carry.
How to speak their name without drowning.
How to live so the love outlasts the loss.

You do not lose someone once.
You lose them again and again,
until one day you realize —
you are still here.
And that is its own kind of courage.

Hold the line.

11/18/2025

Stoic thought of the day: (BJJ themed)

“Vice and abundance are easy to get. The road is smooth and begins beside you. But the gods have put sweat between us and virtue—on a road long, rough, and steep.”- Hesiod

On the mats, you learn quickly: the easy path teaches you nothing. Anyone can show up, slap hands, and cruise through rounds with weaker partners. Anyone can chase comfort, avoid pressure, tap early, blame fatigue, or pick the drills they already feel good at. That’s the smooth road.

But the climb toward virtue? That’s found under pressure. Inside the choke. Pinned beneath a heavier opponent, your lungs burning, your mind begging for a way out. Round after round of being the nail.

Jiu-jitsu humbles the arrogant, breaks the lazy, and sharpens the willing. You don’t “earn” virtue—you bleed for it. You grind it out from bad positions, inch by inch, breath by strained breath.

So choose the harder roll.
Seek the rounds that scare you.
Climb the steep road of discipline where your ego dies but your skill evolves.

On the mats, just as in life, vice is the easy escape.
Virtue is the pressure test. And the gods always side with the one who refuses to quit the fight.

Hold the line.

11/10/2025

Stoic thought of the day:

“I should have liked to cure this disorder early… but now that it has been confirmed by time it cannot be beaten without a struggle.”- Seneca

Take a step. A small one. A pathetic one. A necessary one. The chains of addiction groan, pulling tight, trying to drag you back into the pit they call home. You take another step. Then another. You stumble so hard it feels like falling. But you drag your body forward inch by inch, minute by minute.

In contempt of the demon you fed for years, you move.In defiance of the hunger, you move.
In the slow gathering of strength, you move.

Vires acquirit eundo.

Hold the line.