05/26/2022
In light of the tragedy precipitated by a teenager, we can all benefit from the following:
Lots of posts today about the recent school shooting. The younger the children killed the more emotional it is. It is such an unnecessary tragedy and heartbreak for every family involved. Including the shooters.
Raising teenagers is so very hard today and I want to encourage parents of middle and older kids to KEEP DOING THE HARD WORK.
We cannot quit and we cannot give in. We must keep our heads and keep hugging, talking, and asking questions.
One of my kids told me recently something I was asking about wasn't my business. I simply said, "You are my business, and my most important business." I didn't have to argue anymore with them. They did not want to tell me things and I didn't require a full disclosure at this point. I let them ponder that and then asked again when they were less agitated.
▶️ Teens don't want to talk to us as much, so if we're going to use less words, make them count.
▶️ Teens don't want to listen to us as much, so find things to talk about they can't help but want to share. (gaming, phones, computers)
▶️ Kids don't think we know things, so start asking them questions. They'll be happy to help educate you.
Teens are still searching for identity and so many people (that you wouldn't have in your home) are trying to tell them how to be cool, accepted, and a winner. YOU be the one who tells them how smart they are, how strong they are, how thankful you are that they are yours. They may hear you better if you're offering ice cream.
Turn lights on.
Open windows.
Have music on that is uplifting.
Quit criticizing so much.
Don't nag.
Simplify your instructions.
Plan an outing.
Check their car.
Separate ammo and guns.
Meet their friends.
Go in their rooms.
Watch their social media.
Pray for your children.
KNOW THEM.
Don't quit, no matter how hard they push back.
Be the calm and steady in their life.
Stand Strong Mama.
