05/01/2024
Why is change so difficult? Why do we know we need to change but fail to do so? Even if we are able to make a change, it often seems like we are thrown into the same situations again and again. Why is that?
Growing takes a combination of self-awareness and willpower.
Change happens on a spiral, not a straight line. Hell, everything that moves moves in a spiral. We start from a point in space and time, often after some kind of rock bottom. We decide to do things differently. This decision plus our willpower creates movement on our path. A spiral of extropy. This spiral is sustained by our self-awareness and willpower.
We use our self-awareness to identify choice points along our habitual path and our willpower to make a different choice than our old reactions at those points. This keeps the spiral moving outward. Eventually, we get so fast at making the new choices that we cease to notice we are making them.
The new choices have become a habit!
However, if we should fail to notice our habitual reaction or lack the willpower to make a change at that choice point, the spiral will invert and become a spiral of entropy. For as long as it takes us to regain self-awareness and willpower.
Understand that this entropic spiral is made of habitual choices and reactions. The same ones that led us to change in the first place.
This is why change can be so hard in the beginning. It takes so much more energy and vigilance to keep from reacting habitually.
The good news is the reason it seems like the universe gives you the same test so many times is because you're actually becoming aware of the pattern!
--hope this helps
coaching -improvement
