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12/26/2025

Today isn’t about fixing anything. It’s just a gentle check-in. No guilt. No shame. No replaying the last few days in your head.

Just take a breath with me for a moment.

How do you feel in your body today?

What’s coming up for you physically or emotionally?

This is usually where women start being really hard on themselves.

Judging. Criticizing.

Telling themselves they “messed it all up.”

Charles and I do something different.

We choose curiosity instead of condemnation aka... shame.

Curiosity is kind. Curiosity is honest.

And curiosity actually helps you move forward.

So instead of asking, “What did I do wrong?” = Condemning yourself

I want you to gently ask yourself these three questions today.

1. What is my body asking for right now?

Rest? A walk? Water? A simple meal?

2. Over the last few days, what moments actually felt good in my body?

Not perfect moments. Just moments where you felt calm and peaceful.

3. Moving forward, how do I want to feel in my body?

Energized? Peaceful? Supported? Lighter?

And I want you to hear this clearly.

If you woke up today not in the greatest state, don't panic.

You’re not behind.

You’re not “off track.”

You didn't do anything "wrong."

That’s your body giving you feedback.

And feedback is a gift.

Today isn’t about making up for anything.

It’s about listening.

And choosing one small step that supports how you want to feel.

We are right here with you.

With Love ❤️

Coach Roxanne

12/25/2025

Coach Roxanne and I want to wish you and your family a very Merry Christmas and a Happy Holiday!

We are so grateful to have you as a part of our Better Body Life community.

Make it an amazing day today.

Be with your family and soak up every moment.

Much Love,

Charles & Roxanne

12/24/2025

The Holidays are never the problem when it comes to food. Lack of trust is really the issue. Most people are afraid of food because they don’t trust themselves around it.

So they grip tighter.

They overthink.

They swing between “all in” and “all out.”

That’s not freedom.

Freedom with food is calm confidence.

It’s knowing you can enjoy food without spiraling.

Freedom is built through skill, not willpower.

Here’s what I want you to practice through the next few days.

Give yourself permission to eat what you want.

Practice eating slowly, taking small bites, and enjoying the flavors and textures.

Stopping when you’re satisfied.

Not stuffed. Not rushed.

Pay attention to your body.

Not the table. Not the noise. Not the pressure.

Mindset shift: “I am in control of every choice and every bite."

Freedom isn’t eating everything in sight

It's also not found in avoidance.

Freedom is trust.

And trust is built one calm decision at a time.

That’s Better Body Life.

And that’s what we’re here for.

May you experience peace, love, and joy this Holiday.

Charles & Roxanne

12/23/2025

Love with food isn’t about what you eat. It’s about how you treat yourself while you eat and after you eat.

Most people don’t spiral because of food.

They spiral because of the voice in their head once the meal is over.

“I shouldn’t have eaten that.”

“I blew it.”

“I’ll fix it, or I'll fast tomorrow."

That voice doesn’t create change.

It creates fear.

Roxanne and I teach love through self-respect, not self-criticism.

Here’s the mindset: "I love what I eat, and most importantly.... it loves me back."

Here is one simple action to consider as you enter into Holiday events and meals...

Slow your first few bites.

Check in.

Ask yourself:

“How do I want to feel when this meal is done?" and "How do I want to feel when I wake up tomorrow?"

No rules. No guilt.

Just presence.

That pause is powerful.

It moves you from a quick emotional reaction to choice.

And that choice represents LOVE for you, who?

YOU!

Love is trust

Love is self-respect

Love is caring and kindness

And it’s how you stay grounded through the holidays.

CHOOSE LOVE this Holiday season.

Your mind, body, and spirit will thank you.

Make LOVE your North Star.

Charles

12/22/2025

Most people think peace means eating less. Or being “good.” Or holding it together just long enough to get through the holidays. That’s not peace. That’s tension.

Roxanne and I believe in teaching peace through preparation and planning.

Peace is knowing you won’t show up starving.

Peace is having a simple structure.

Peace is removing panic and overwhelm from food decisions.

Here’s one thing I want you to practice today.

Intention with your meals.

Don’t skip. Don’t delay. Don’t “save calories.”

Food stops feeling so loud.

Mindset shift I want you to sit with:

"I choose peace on purpose.”

Remember to PAUSE and repeat this declaration.

Peace with food isn’t earned by restriction.

It’s created by consistency.

It's created through trusting your intuition and acting on it.

That’s the Better Body Life way.

The holidays are here.

You don't need another "Holiday Cheat Sheet" to tell you what to do.

You already know.

Give your intuition the credit it deserves.

This year... lean into the peace that you are fully capable of CHOOSING peace.

Charles

12/19/2025

As we head into Christmas week, I want to talk about something that quietly holds a lot of power. FAILURE. Or at least what we have been taught to believe failure means.

For many women, the fear of failing is the reason they avoid structure, planning, or boundaries altogether.

Because if you do not set anything, you cannot break anything.

And if you cannot break anything, you cannot feel that familiar wave of guilt or shame.

But here is the truth.

Avoiding failure does not create freedom.

It creates fear.

Here's one more truth.

Failure is NOT fatal.

It's only something that is trying to show you a better way

And fear keeps you stuck in the same cycle year after year.

Failure itself is not the problem.

The meaning we attach to it is.

In diet culture, failure meant you were weak.

That you could not be trusted. That you blew it.

In Better Body Life, failure means something very different.

It means feedback.

We don't let a word define us. We take the power back and allow it to guide us.

It is information. It is awareness. It is an opportunity to adjust.

Nothing more.

One meal does not undo you.

One choice does not erase your progress.

One moment does not define who you are.

What matters is not whether you get it perfect.

What matters is what you do next.

Do you spiral and disappear...
..Or do you pause, get curious, and keep going.

That choice is where growth lives.

As you move into the next week, I want you to remember this.

You do not need to be perfect to be consistent.

You do not need to control everything to be in control.

And you do not need to fear failure in order to change.

You are allowed to learn.

You are allowed to adjust.

You are allowed to move forward without punishment.

Give yourself permission.

That is how real change happens.

With so much love,

Coach Roxanne 🥰

PS...You do not have to wait until January to feel supported.

We are opening the final weeks of 2025 completely FREE so you can finish the year feeling grounded, supported, and clear headed.

No credit card. No pressure.

If you want to join us, comment below 👇 with "GIFT" and I will send you the link.

12/18/2025

Do you want to have a better relationship with food? ❤️ If yes, keep reading. If not, it's okay. It just means this message probably isn't the right message.... right now.

So... where does FREEDOM happen?

Inside our BOUNDARIES

This is another word that can create an instant reaction.

For many women, boundaries feel restrictive.

They feel like deprivation. They feel like being told no. They feel like something is being taken away.

And when it comes to food, boundaries can feel especially uncomfortable.

Because for a lot of women, food has become the one place where they feel free.

Free from expectations. Free from responsibility. Free from rules.

So the idea of placing a boundary there can feel threatening.

But here is the reframe I want to offer you today.

Boundaries are not about taking something away.

Boundaries are about protecting what matters.

👆 Please read that again ❤️

When there are no boundaries, what usually shows up instead is... guilt. Second-guessing.

That heavy feeling of why did I do that again.

That is not freedom. That is exhaustion.

True freedom does not come from unlimited access.

It comes from alignment.

It comes from knowing your choices support the life you want to live.

Boundaries are simply a way of saying, "This matters to me."

They protect your energy. They protect your confidence. They protect your progress.

Inside BBL, boundaries are not rigid.

They are personal. They are adjustable. They are chosen by you.

A boundary is not someone else telling you what you can or cannot do.

It is you deciding what supports you best.

As we head into Christmas week, boundaries are not about restriction.

They are about creating space to actually enjoy the season.

Tomorrow, I want to talk about failure, and why it has so much power over us even when we say it does not.

For today, consider this question.

What would it look like to choose boundaries as an act of self-respect, not self-control?

With love,

Coach Roxanne 🥰

PS.... You do not have to wait until January to feel supported.

We are gifting the final 3 weeks of 2025 at no cost, so you can finish the year feeling clear, confident, and grounded.

If you want in, simply Comment Below with "GIFT," and I will send you the registration link.

No card required.

12/17/2025

If the word planning makes you tense up a little, you are not alone. For many women, planning around food feels heavy. It brings up memories of strict meal plans.

Counting. Tracking. Doing it "right or doing it wrong."

You're "good" if you do, and you're "bad" if you don't (100% Untrue btw)

So instead of feeling supportive, planning feels controlling.

It feels like pressure. It feels like being boxed in. It feels like setting yourself up to fail.

Would you agree?

That reaction did not come out of nowhere.

Most women I work with have planned plenty of times in the past.

They planned diets. They planned resets and detoxes. They planned rules that they could not sustain.

So it makes sense that your nervous system learned to associate planning with stress.

A physical reaction takes place.

👆 Read that again...

But here is the reframe I want to offer you today.

Planning is not about control.

❤️ Planning is about care.

It is not about locking yourself into perfection.

It is about giving your future self support when energy is low.

Planning is simply deciding ahead of time what might help you feel steady.

Not flawlessly. But at peace. Light. Calm. In control.

In Better Body Life, planning is flexible.

It leaves room for life. It leaves room for change. It leaves room for being human.

And most importantly, planning is optional information.

It allows for pivots because life is one big pivot.

It is not a rule you must follow. It is a resource you can lean on.

This week, especially, planning does not mean you cannot enjoy food.

It means you are less likely to abandon yourself in moments of stress or exhaustion.

It means you are less likely to end the day wondering why it all fell apart.

Planning is not about restriction. It is about peace.

Tomorrow, I want to talk about boundaries and why they feel restrictive even though they are meant to protect you.

For today, just notice what story you have been telling yourself about planning.

That story matters.

With love,

Coach Roxanne 🥰

PS: We are opening up the final 3 weeks of 2025 completely FREE as a gift to anyone NEW to Better Body Life. Is that you?

If you want in, Comment Below 👇 with "GIFT" 🎁 and I will send you the link.

No credit card. No pressure.

Just coaching and support to help you finish the year feeling steady and supported.

12/16/2025

If the last few days have felt heavier than normal, I want you to know something. You are not imagining it. This week is demanding. There are more decisions to make. More people to think about. More schedules to juggle. More emotions in the air.

And for many women (and men), this is the point where food starts to feel harder too.

Not because you suddenly lost discipline. Not because you stopped caring.

But because you are tired.

Tired brains reach for easy comfort. Tired nervous systems crave relief.

READ THAT AGAIN 👆

And one of the biggest sources of exhaustion right now is decision fatigue.

What to eat. When to eat. What not to eat.

Should I have this. Should I skip that. I will decide later.

That constant back and forth is draining.

This is where structure gets misunderstood.

PAUSE: the next line is crucial... read it slowly please ❤️

Many women think structure will add pressure.

That it will feel like another thing to manage. Another rule to follow.

But in reality, the absence of structure is often what is creating the stress.

Structure does not mean perfection. Structure does not mean restriction.

Structure simply means fewer decisions.

It means you do not have to negotiate with yourself all day long.

That is PEACE

It means your future self is not left alone to figure everything out when energy is low.

That is POWERFUL

This is especially important during weeks like this one.

Structure is not about control.

It is about relief.

That is FREEDOM

It is about giving your nervous system something steady to lean on when life feels noisy.

And here is something I want you to really hear.

If structure has felt heavy in the past, it is often because it was paired with judgment.

In Better Body Life, structure is paired with support.

It is flexible. It is human.

It is there to help you feel peaceful, light, and calm....not trapped.

As we move closer to Christmas, my hope for you is not that you do everything "perfectly."

My hope is that you feel a little less overwhelmed. A little more supported. A little more grounded.

Tomorrow, I want to talk about why planning can feel triggering...

... and how we approach it differently here.

For today, notice where you are exhausted from deciding everything on your own.

That awareness matters.

With love,

Coach Roxanne

PS...

As a gift, we are opening up the final 3 weeks of 2025 completely FREE.

No credit card. No gimmicks.

Just coaching, structure, and support to help you finish the year feeling steady instead of scattered.

If you are NEW TO BBL and want in, simply COMMENT BELOW 👇 with the word GIFT 🎁

12/15/2025

Rules. Standards. Boundaries. For some women, even reading those words creates an instant reaction. Like some major internal resistance. For some, it's a hard no!

And if that is you, I want you to hear this clearly.

There is nothing wrong with you.

In fact, that reaction makes a lot of sense.

Many women are incredible with structure in every other area of their lives.

-> You follow rules at work.

-> You manage schedules.

-> You hold responsibility.

-> You thrive with expectations.

But when it comes to food, something feels different.

A rule around food does not feel supportive.

❌ It feels threatening ❌

Not because you are weak.

Not because you lack discipline.

But because food rules have a history.

They are tied to diets you tried.

Promises you made. Lines you crossed. Shame you carried... or still do

Moments you told yourself you should have done better.

So when someone says, "let’s set a standard," your nervous system does not hear support.

It hears pressure.

It hears restriction.

It hears, "here we go again."

And your body responds by protecting you.

That protection can look like resistance.

Or avoiding planning.

Or insisting on total freedom in the moment.

Not because you want to sabotage yourself.

But because some part of you learned that rules around food lead to pain.

That is not defiance.

👉 That is self-protection.

This means your reaction is not the problem. It is information. It's TELLING YOU something.

And this week, as we move closer to Christmas, I want you to know something.

❤️ Standards are not here to take your freedom.

❤️ Standards are not here to control your food.

❤️ And standards are not here to repeat old diet patterns.

Standards are here to help you build support that actually feels safe.

👉 Before we talk about structure, planning, or boundaries...
..we start with understanding

Because when you understand why something feels triggering, you no longer have to fight yourself.

Tomorrow, I want to talk about why structure is not pressure, even though it feels that way.

For today, just notice.

Notice what words create resistance. Notice what emotions come up.

And remind yourself of this.

You are not broken for reacting this way.

You are human.

And you are learning a new way forward.

With so much love,

Roxanne 🥰

PS: As a gift to you, we are opening up the final 3 weeks of 2025 completely FREE.

No credit card. No gimmicks.

Just real coaching, real support, and a steady place to land as the year comes to a close.

If you are NEW to BBL want to finish this year feeling clear, supported, and grounded instead of reactive and exhausted, comment below with the word "GIFT" 🎁

I will personally send you the link to register.

12/12/2025

Before the New Year rush hits, before the resolutions, the guilt, the pressure, and the “I’ll start on Monday” mindset tries to creep back in, I want to give you something simple but powerful.

Something to ground you. Something to give you hope.

Something to remind you that you are not starting from zero.

2026 is not asking you to become a brand new person.

It’s asking you to step into the version of yourself you’ve always wanted to be.

A person who leads themselves.

A person who keeps promises to themselves.

A person who takes the next step even when it’s hard.

A person who refuses to quit on the life they want.

As you close out 2025, I want you to reflect on one simple question:

Who do I want to BE walking into 2026?

Not your weight. Not your size.

Not the mistakes you’ve made in the past.

Not the diets that left you discouraged.

Who do you WANT to be every day when your feet hit the floor?

Because here’s the truth…

Becoming the healthiest, happiest version of yourself is not about perfection.

It’s about alignment.

Alignment between what you SAY you want… and the choices you make daily.

And these final weeks of the year?

They are the perfect training ground.

Every time you:

✔️ Drink your water instead of skipping it
✔️ Get outside for a short walk
✔️ Eat a meal that makes you feel good instead of guilty
✔️ Pause instead of spiraling
✔️ Make a plan instead of winging it

…you’re rehearsing the version of you who will walk confidently into 2026.

These final days matter more than people realize.

They’re shaping your identity.

They’re strengthening your foundation.

They’re building the momentum you’ll carry forward into the New Year.

So let this be your challenge:

Lead yourself well this week. Don’t wait for January.

Don’t wait for motivation.

Don’t wait for life to “calm down.”

Start now. Start small.

Start where you are.

2026 belongs to the person who is willing to show up today.

Love ya 🥰
Roxanne

PS: If you want support, structure, and accountability as you walk into 2026, we’re giving you the rest of December FREE inside Better Body Life.

It’s our gift to help you feel hopeful, confident, and back in control again.

COMMENT below 👇 with "GIFT" and I’ll message you the details.

12/11/2025

For years I believed the lie “I just can’t control myself around food.”

But when I finally looked deeper, I realized the truth.

Food was not why I reached 240 lbs.

Food was how I protected myself when I did not know another way to cope.

When I learned real tools to navigate stress, emotions, and overwhelm, everything changed.

My relationship with food changed.

My body changed.

My whole life changed.

Here are a few things that helped me learn how to cope in a healthier way:

1. I paused before reaching for food

I asked myself what I was actually needing in that moment. Relief. Rest. Comfort. Connection.

2. I moved for two minutes

A short walk or stepping outside gave me enough space to interrupt the emotional pull toward food.

3. I talked to myself with honesty instead of judgment

I stopped calling myself weak and started reminding myself that I was learning new skills. That shift mattered more than I ever expected.

Love ya 🥰
Roxanne

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