Code Forty4

04/21/2026

Have you ever been told “their labs look normal”… but you know something is off?

What if the issue isn’t being tested?

For many first responders, the problem isn’t just stress.
It’s what stress is doing to the body:

Burned-out cortisol levels
Low magnesium, B vitamins, omega-3s
Gut health disruption
Chronic inflammation

Unfortunately, traditional labs only check for disease.... but
Functional labs look for deficiencies and imbalances that are lacking in our first responders

Because when the body is off… the mind can’t regulate stress the same way.

There are tools like Function Health that go deeper...looking at what’s actually happening inside the body, not just whether something is “in range.”

🎧 Episode 15 breaks this down in a way every spouse needs to hear. Don’t miss this one.
👉 If you’ve been wondering whether something is going on physically but want to actually see it in real data, not just guess...check the link and QR code in the comments for a tool that’s available for you to start the process of identifying why your loved one cannot regulate their nervous system.

04/14/2026

Sometimes the hardest part is knowing something feels off… but not knowing exactly what it is or how to bring it up in conversation.

Maybe the trauma from the day was just too much for them to share.
Maybe they don’t want to burden you with what they saw or experienced.

Sometimes all they need is a safe way to begin talking.

Here are two simple questions that might help you and your loved one start the conversation:

💬 “Was today just one of those heavy days?”
💬 “Was there something on your shift today that’s sticking with you?”

A simple question can remind them they are not alone — and that you are here to support them. ❤️

04/11/2026

Have you ever really thought about how you’re breathing?

I always assumed taking a deep breath was enough to calm the body… but I was wrong.

Especially for law enforcement officers who experience trauma and high stress, the body can stay stuck in constant alert.

Episode 14 walks you through a simple breathing exercise that can help reset the nervous system and may be important for both you and your loved one.

Don’t miss this one. 🎧 (link to episode in comments)

04/08/2026

Available for all First Responders and their spouses(or significant others ) completely free to anyone in the US!!!!

I promise you, it will be life changing!

If you want a closer look at what the event looks like, check out episode 11 on Code Forty4 podcast on YouTube

Anger.
Isolation.
Nightmares.
Insomnia.
Anxiety.
Depression.
“Self-medication.”
It’s difficult to pinpoint when your life became a slow series of “going through the motions” but the job takes its toll.
If you’re ready to take your life back,
there are still a few seats left for the confidential, expense free May 15-17 retreat.
https://firstrespondersbridge.org/retreat-registration/

04/06/2026

Trauma is not always “in the past” for a first responder.

Sometimes the brain never had the chance to process it.

But healing is possible.

🎧 Listen to our Episode 9 to learn one way to help move trauma toward healing through EMDR.

04/01/2026

Not all trauma is visible.
Sometimes it’s the silence, the distance, or the feeling that their mind never gets a chance to slow down.

03/30/2026

In September 2025, after walking out of yet another law enforcement funeral following a death by su***de, Mike and I knew we had to do more for our community and for the mental health of our first responders.

In November, I launched the first episode of the Code Forty4 podcast. The name itself carries deep meaning “Code 44” is the call that Buckeye State Sheriff Association uses for “officer needs help”. My mission was to reach families, not because I had all the answers, but because families need to know that healing is available… just not in the silence where so many of us often find ourselves.

The struggle continues to be that sometimes we are unwilling to admit something is wrong until our loved one is already deep in the black hole.

I am incredibly grateful to The Courier for helping bring visibility to the mental health struggles our first responders face from the trauma they carry and the cumulative weight of what they see.

This mission has never been about having all the answers. It is about making sure families know that healing is possible, support is available, and no one should have to walk through this alone.

(Full article link in comments)

03/26/2026

Today is a big day for Code Forty4.
Our website is live!! (link is in the comments)

This has been on my heart for a long time…
To create a space where spouses and families of law enforcement officers can go for real support, real conversations, and real resources.

Because the truth is…So many are struggling in silence.

And it’s not because they don’t care.
It’s because they don’t know where to start… or if they’re even allowed to say something.

This mission has never been about me.
It’s about the families sitting at home feeling like something is off… but not knowing what to do next.
It’s about giving them a place to begin.

👉 My ask is simple:
PLEASE share this post.
PLEASE share the website.

You never know who needs this… or when they’ll need it.

One share could be the moment someone realizes they are not alone.

Thank you for being part of breaking the silence.

03/23/2026

The “shiny new toy” isn’t always about the toy in a law enforcement family.

Sometimes their nervous system is stuck in overdrive looking for a dopamine hit to escape what the body is holding onto.

Which can results in .....
The next toy...The next upgrade...The next purchase

More spending
Creating more overtime
Trying to find the relief.

Don’t ignore it. Recognize the pattern.
Ask the hard question.
Support what’s underneath

03/19/2026

First responders live in a constant cycle of hypervigilance, over time, that level of stress actually burns through key nutrients faster than the body can replace them.

Dr. Heather Heck shared that some of the most common deficiencies she sees in first responders include:

• Vitamin D – supports mood, immunity, and hormone balance
• Magnesium – critical for sleep and calming the nervous system
• Omega-3 fatty acids – essential for brain health and reducing inflammation
• B vitamins – needed for energy and stress response

This is why conversations around mental health in law enforcement have to include the body too.

If you want to understand how nutrition, hormones, and gut health may be impacting your first responder, this episode with Dr. Heather Heck is incredibly eye-opening.

🎧 Listen to the full conversation on Episode 15 on Code Forty4 Podcast

03/18/2026

“Writing things down can actually help your brain process trauma.”

I know this is probably uncomfortable for many of our law enforcement officers, but this can be a helpful tool. As family members and spouses, it’s something we can gently encourage, even if it’s only used after a critical incident.

🚑🚒🚓 First Responders: Your therapist isn’t making it up—writing things down can actually help your brain process stress.

Putting thoughts and emotions into words does more than just help you reflect. Brain imaging research shows that naming and writing about emotions can change how the brain processes stress.

The amygdala acts as the brain’s threat detector. It helps you react quickly during high-risk situations—something first responders rely on every day. But after repeated exposure to intense calls, that system can stay activated longer than it should.

Research has found that labeling emotions—even briefly—can reduce activity in the amygdala while increasing activity in the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for reasoning, decision-making, and emotional regulation.

In simple terms, writing about what you’re feeling can help the brain shift from automatic emotional reactions to more controlled processing.

Studies on expressive writing, including randomized controlled trials, suggest that structured writing about experiences can:
🧠 Reduce rumination and repetitive thoughts
🧠 Improve emotional processing
🧠 Support overall psychological well-being over time

For first responders, journaling doesn’t have to be complicated. It can be as simple as:
✔ Writing a few sentences after a tough call
✔ Getting thoughts out of your head after shift
✔ Reflecting on what went well or what stuck with you

Writing doesn’t erase stress or trauma—but putting experiences into words helps the brain organize them, making them easier to process rather than carrying them around unstructured.

Even short writing sessions have been linked to measurable changes in how the brain handles emotional information.

You spend your career documenting calls and reports. Sometimes it helps to document your own thoughts too. 🧠✍️

Source: Frontiers in Psychology; Mindfulness (Springer)