02/10/2026
People-pleasing is often misunderstood as a personality trait, when in reality it can be a survival strategy.
In therapy, we explore how people-pleasing develops as a response to environments where safety, connection, or approval felt uncertain. When someone learns that harmony reduces conflict or emotional risk, prioritizing others becomes a way to stay protected. Over time, this can lead to chronic self-abandonment, difficulty identifying needs, and deep exhaustion.
This isn’t a flaw to correct; it’s evidence of resilience in the face of past stress or trauma. Healing doesn’t mean becoming uncaring; it means learning that your needs and boundaries are allowed to exist alongside others’.