05/28/2025
When you donât have a co-parent willing to work with you in the best interest of your kids post-separation/divorce, parallel parenting may be a more accurate term.
This often goes hand in hand with what is called post-separation abuse, where the control, manipulation, and untrustworthy behavior have you may have experienced in your previous relationship with them continues.
There may be shame, embarrassment, and a whole lotta frustration and pain that goes along with this. You may even hear things from people like âitâs best to work together for the kidsâ or âyou need to set their behavior aside and just get alongâ. These kinds of statements further minimize and ignore the other parentâs treatment of you, while putting responsibility for their behavior into your lap, even though you have no control over how they choose to act.
The other parent may continue to act like their behavior is because youâre âdifficultâ or âuncollaborativeâ but you know the truth. There is no such thing as them being a good parent while actively harming their kids other parent(you).
For those going through this, there is hope. There can be joy, peace, and a life on the âother sideâ from this horrendous experience. Continue to take care of yourself and your kids how you can, seek support and resources to empower yourself with tools to protect yourself in this process, and know that it is not your fault.
Hold fast. đŞ