Cortnie S. Baity, PhD, LMFT

11/11/2025

10/21/2025

The heart—the mind—the nervous system—the body is so fragile. We take that too lightly until it succumbs to the pressure. Don’t be ashamed—we are only human. Get help & rise again even stronger 🙏🏾🫶🏾

10/14/2025

10/10/2025

In honor of — may we remember that tending to our minds, hearts, and nervous systems is sacred work. Healing isn’t linear; it’s a lifelong garden in bloom.

Be patient with your process.
Water your peace.
Protect your soil.
You are worthy of care.

10/04/2025

This carousel was created for every young girl who is learning to navigate the depths of love and romantic relationships, for women my age & older, who are recovering from their own personal blind crash course in romantic relationships, for every client that I serve who has struggled with codependency, and for past versions of myself who has also fumbled my way through romantic relationships in the dark, trying to maintain my balance when falling in love with a man—remembering that the ultimate source of love is God and even when the love from a man is good — he’s still not God.

With all my love, Dr. Cortnie S. Baity, LMFT

10/02/2025

Hello, my name is Dr. Cortnie S. Baity, LMFT. I am honored to continue to work as a Mental Health provider partner with the Boris L Henson Foundation. I just wanted to inform everyone that there are still ongoing free, mental healthcare programs, sponsored by the Boris L Henson foundation brought to you by Taraji P. Henson. Please visit the website below to see if you may be eligible for free therapy sessions.

https://borislhensonfoundation.org/programs/mwsp/

https://resourceguide.borislhensonfoundation.org/serviceprovider/dr-cortnie-s-baity-lmft-onward-and-upward-psychotherapy-consulting-services-llc/

07/12/2025

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07/04/2025

As the 4th of July fireworks begin, my thoughts are with all my combat veterans.

Remember to:

1. Wear your ear plugs or noise canceling headphones
2. Challenge unhelpful thoughts that do not fit your current reality (list 5 pieces of evidence that you are safe)
3. Get close to your pets, pet and cuddle them to self soothe (more than likely they need comforting too!)
4. Engage in deep breathing exercises
5. Turn on some meditation music/soothing sounds
6. Phone a friend to share your distress
7. Remember the crisis lines are available to you. Use them…even if you don’t feel like you are in crisis—if you feel uneasy call any ways—-they are there to support you.

**Veteran Mental Health Resources:

1. VA Vet Centers (search your local office)

2. VAMC Mental Health Walk in

3. Vet Center Call Center (open 24/7)
1-877-927-8387

4. National Crisis Line (open 24/7)
1-800-273-8255 (vets press 1)

Love always,
Dr. Baity ❤️💙🤍

05/22/2025

Trauma is stored in the body.

If you don’t intentionally release it from your body, it becomes your death sentence—stored up trauma deteriorates your mental and physical health.

Black women are disproportionately diagnosed with cardiovascular & autoimmune diseases in the United States— these diseases develop partly from genetic pre-disposition but also from overexposure to stress.

You don’t have to be stuck with every pain that you experience.

Expel that trauma from your body by moving your body vigorously & often—

Lift weights, destroying tainted muscles poluted with cortisol & rebuild new ones.

Release some of the fat (yes I know we love our curves, but fat stores toxins also). Release some of it and notice how much more energetic you become.

Sweat out negative affect related toxins (stress chemicals) via running, dancing, walking, going to a sauna.

Drink lots of water, expelong toxins via urine.

Clean out your gut, eat healthy gut bacteria.

Drink detox teas.

Get at least 15 minutes of sunlight. Research shows this helps support the body produce vitamins that rid toxins out of the body. It also supports the body’s natural functions to regulate chemical balance.

Say how you feel—talk it out, therapy, journal, create via performing arts, crafts, or technology.

Ladies, don’t despise or skip your mentrual cycle—let it clean that toxic man’s DNA out of your body and your energy!

Take herbal supplements. Bathe in herbs.

Eat the rainbow (colorful fruits and veggies daily).

Fast regularly from pleasures (food, s*x, alcohol/drugs, social media, etc.)

Rinse and repeat—over and over and over until your walk, your talk, your energy is light(er).

Releasing is a huge part of healing & that’s on Dr. Cortnie Baity, LMFT— living what I teach! 🤏🏾✨