I'm Not Done Yet

11/06/2025

Originally written on May 8, 1980. Found this gem as I was cleaning out my office for another move: Windmills are turning in my mind No direction, no path, an unknown destiny Trying to maintain my center seems to be getting harder Wanting to try too much, too fast and not being given the change to try anything Stagnation Why worry?...

Originally written on May 8, 1980. Found this gem as I was cleaning out my office for another move: Windmills are turning in my mind No direction, no path, an unknown destiny Trying to maintain my …

03/06/2025

I have been living in my own liminal space. I have learned to be comfortable with 'not knowing what is next' (almost comfortable). This has been challenging and unexpected; as most of these situations are. Certain decisions have been made; while others are finding its footing. My work remains. My work in serving midlife women in transition, along with a few organizational clients will continue....

I have been living in my own liminal space. I have learned to be comfortable with ‘not knowing what is next’ (almost comfortable). This has been challenging and unexpected; as most of t…

02/20/2025

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I have been living in my own liminal space. I have learned to be comfortable with 'not knowing what is next'. This has been challenging and unexpected; as most of these situations are. Certain decisions have been made; while others are finding its footing.

My work remains. My work in serving midlife women in transition, along with a few organizational clients will continue. I love helping women remain relevant, resilient and remarkable. I have been doing this work for a long, long time and it is part of my being.

I will no longer do this work full time. Or as many of us entrepreneurs know, the hours are far beyond what is considered 'full time'.

I am freeing up my time to focus on three things:

⏳ my own health and wellness
⏳ my father's care
⏳ ways to support others in the midst of the changing global landscape as a direct result of the new US administration (how's that for being politically appropriate?).

I really don't know what this will look like but I know I want to wrap my arms more tightly around the issues that resonate in my soul:

👭 A woman's right to choose
✡️ The rise of anti-semitism
🧓 The ongoing bias of gendered ageism

After receiving a autoimmune disease diagnosis a few months back coupled with the ongoing feelings of grief for almost two years, I want to be much more intentional daily to my own care. Living in this chronic state for so long, has taken its toll. We all know the saying 'if you don't take care of yourself first, then you can not take care of others'.

My father's health continues to decline. He continues to surprise all of us that he is still here. He needs 24 hour care. His heart is strong and is mind is aware; though he is not able to communicate very well and cannot take care of any of his daily needs on his own.

We have put our house in south Florida on the market; though the real estate market has paused at the moment (It would take me another post to share my feelings on the current US administration). We were originally considering moving to Europe but have put that on hold to be near my dad's home. We are thinking of either moving back to CLT or Philly. Our dream of living as expats may come later.

As far as the rest is concerned, I am open to the possibilities. If any of my friends have ideas to share, I would be delighted to have a conversation.

I remain here to listen, to support, to encourage and to cry or scream with. The world needs all of us to help mitigate or reverse these big and scary changes.
What will remain is up to all of us. Not one person!
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12/13/2024

It has been a labor of love. I have spent the last 6 months refining my website. It took longer than expected as I went away to France for a month only to return to another episode of failing health for my dad.

I took my time. I took time for reflection, inspiration, admiration and sadness.

🧬As I mentioned earlier, the long arc that is my life is filled with the unexpected. My long arc shows me there is always hope and a way forward; even when sadness and uncertainty abounds. I honored those pauses and I am happy with the results.

Launch is a bit later than planned, and it is ok.

👍I want this revised site to reflect where I am now in service to others; simple in design, clarity of intention, colorful and fun.

It is clear I am not done yet. I hope you are not either.

BTW, I designed and created this by myself; with help from Squarespace and my husband.

www.iamnotdoneyet.com

10/02/2024

Wishing all my Jewish friends a Shana tovah u'metukah and
Chag sameach

Tonight at sundown begins the holiday of Rosh Hashanah. This time of year, as in all the years before, is a time of reflection and renewal. It is a time of feast and fast.

Many people around the world are experiencing sadness and despair. On October 7, it will be one year and all the hostages have yet to be returned.
There is ongoing conflict in the Middle East and the war in Ukraine. The climate induced tragedies of hurricanes and other weather events have left paths of destruction. Many no longer have a home, a place to return to. In the US, the country is divided and the upcoming elections are fraught with lies and mistruths.

Wishing all of us a better, sweeter, healthier and much happier new year. May all families be united with their loved ones. May we live in peace, together. ✡️ 🍎 🍯

09/26/2024

Hot off the presses. My insights and perspectives about multigenerational workforces are showcased in this article The Hartford Extra Mile publication.

What happens when your longtime manager leaves or you start a new job, and your new supervisor is 20 to 30 years younger than you? There’s a good chance both […]

06/20/2024

Here is a very interesting article from the The New York Times offering different perspectives about the meaning of retirement. The experiences are varied, and cover the entire spectrum of the expected and unexpected.

One of my favorite reflections came from Kevin Mihaly, who like me doesn't like the word 'retirement':
“Don’t use the word retirement. It sounds decrepit and connotes imagery of rocking chairs and poor health. Somewhere, I came across the Spanish word for retirement: jubilación! Now doesn’t that sound more approachable and appealing?”

Many people hire a financial planner to assist with the financial aspects of retirement, and a lawyer to assist with estate planning and life care needs, and an insurance professional.

People should also consider hiring a coach who has experience and knowledge about all the other non-financial areas one can explore prior to and during 'retirement', i.e., navigating this transition, purpose finding, community, engagement, aging, and exploring all the possibilities available in your next phases/chapters of life.


https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/20/business/retirement/retire-advice-life-tips.html?unlocked_article_code=1.1E0.ivi4.JTitb5aW3pWi&smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare&sgrp=c-cb&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR3msuoE3oiAc9L-170I3-6nQVREVbOHDBqVyzR5iduy84o9OdN84btZwtY_aem_ZmFrZWR1bW15MTZieXRlcw

We asked readers to submit their stories of retirement — to share their experiences, as well as their advice.

06/17/2024

She is clearly not done yet. Age is just a number. I love the sport of swimming. I finally learned how to swim at 60.

Gabrielle Rose, 46, swam ANOTHER personal best at Olympic trials.
Her 1:08.32 and 10th-place finish in the 100 breaststroke comes 20 years after her previous trials. She also swam in memory of her father, Mike Rose, on Father's Day.

Gabrielle Rose is realistic about her goals. She knows a third Olympics is out of reach.
That’s OK.
This time, she’s swimming for an even higher cause.
Rose is by far the oldest athlete at the U.S. Olympic swimming trials — earning her place among more than 1,000 entrants exactly two decades removed from her last appearance.

“You can have more energy, you can have more strength than you thought was possible,” she went on, the passion building in her voice. “I want women in particular to not be afraid to be strong, to lift weights, to take care of themselves and just know that they can have a lot more in the older chapters of their lives.”

At 46 years of age, Gabrielle Rose was competing on the biggest stage before most of her competitors were even born. The 1996 and 2000 Olympian and the oldes...

06/12/2024

To all of you in midlife, here is your call to action from Brene Brown. This is my favorite: "You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen."

"I think midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear:
I’m not screwing around. It’s time. All of this pretending and performing – these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt – has to go.

Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy of love and belonging, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever. Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you.

You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through you. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen."
~ Brené Brown

If you are a woman in midlife, or care about someone who is, I can guide you to reclaim your confidence, courage, clarity and commitment in your worlds of work. Do any of these questions reflect your current state of being?

~Have you been working for a while and seek new meaning for your career and life?
~Have you been seeking that promotion or considering landing elsewhere?
~Have you an idea to start that business or a philanthropic endeavor?
~Are you considering re-entering the workforce, and just don't know your place?

If any of these resonate with you, please reach out to schedule an informative discovery call with me.



BTW, this image is me swimming 8 lengths of a pool for the first time!

06/09/2024

I originally wrote this in 2018, and with a bit of refinement I now share it with you again:

"Over time, we have learned to embrace what fits into our narrative and ignore what doesn't.
Growth in life and work comes from living outside of that narrative, and removing the boundaries of comfort and familiarity.
This is true engagement. This is resilient living."

05/28/2024

Here is my 'official' marketing piece to support my recent announcement. You may, or may not recall about a month ago, I decided to brand pivot my business. This is not a rebrand, but a brand pivot with purpose and intention.

I am so excited that after months and months of self-reflection, life experiences (good and not so good), and growing market demands; I have come to this refinement of my firm's services.

I am now using my highest and best superpowers exclusively for women going through two important transitions; and to help you rediscover, reclaim and reset your work and your life now and all the years ahead.

I have been doing this work for years as part of my portfolio. Now I am only focusing on these two crucial transitions.

So, I have two questions for you:
1. I'm not done yet. Are you?

2. How can I help you or someone you care about?