03/21/2025
Is your ADHD child just not listening?
You ask them to do something and it’s like they didn’t even hear you.
But here’s the truth:
It’s not defiance—it’s executive functioning.
ADHD brains often struggle with:
• Shifting attention
• Starting tasks
• Holding multiple directions in working memory
• Organizing what to do first
Here’s how to help them actually follow through—on their own:
Step 1: Connect first.
Before giving a direction, get on their level and use a calm, non-threatening tone.
Say: “I need your eyes, please.”
(Always ask for eye contact. This helps shift attention and regulate their nervous system.)
Step 2: Break it down.
Skip “Go clean your room.” That’s too vague and overwhelming.
Instead, give one clear, manageable instruction like:
“First, put the markers you’re using back in their box.”
Be as specific as possible.
Step 3: Ask for repetition.
Say: “Can you tell me what you’re going to do first?”
This repetition helps the brain lock in the instruction and boosts follow-through.
Step 4: One step at a time.
Let them complete that one task independently.
Then reconnect, give the next small step, and repeat the process.
(Over time, you can build up to giving two steps at once!)
Example breaking down a larger task into smaller achievable ones (have them complete one step at a time)
1. “First, put the markers you’re using back in their box.”
2. “Next, walk to your bedroom.”
3. “now put the dolls on the shelf.”
(Have them repeat each one back before starting.)
This method helps manage tasks without overwhelm and builds confidence instead of frustration or avoidance.
These simple shifts make a big difference in helping ADHD kids succeed.
Try it today—and save this post so you have it on the hard days!
