10/24/2025
Love doesn’t just disappear—it changes shape when our focus does.
In this clip, Jordan B. Peterson unpacks the idea of how to stop falling out of love. While genuine relational trauma repair involves far deeper and more layered work, this message touches on an important starting point: shifting perception.
When partners learn to redirect attention toward what they desire to see—kindness, effort, appreciation—instead of reinforcing only what’s wrong, the brain begins to rewire its filters. This phenomenon, known as frequency illusion, allows us to start noticing more of the good and less of the negative our minds have been conditioned to expect.
In therapy, this isn’t about ignoring pain—it’s about retraining awareness to make room for repair. Healing begins where intentional focus meets emotional safety.