The Happiness Project

10/27/2025

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Hello again. Ruth here, still talking about holding space! I originally had 3 parts planned to this series, but some people have me thinking more about what it looks like to hold space... One friend shared with me her concerns that she wasn't doing enough for others or that she felt bad about findin...

10/20/2025

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With Halloween on the horizon, it strikes me that specters of trauma's past can be more frightening than a horror movie! I thought I'd give specific examples of how EMDR therapy has turned such ghosts into mere jack-o-lanterns. Composite Case 1: Domestic Violence History Yesterday I watched "Natural...

10/13/2025

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Last week, I wrote about how small, repetitive events can leave a mark on your mind that impacts you today. Here are examples of residual effects we can hold from our past: 1. Low self-esteem leading to unhealthy levels of people pleasing. 2. Fear of abandonment leading to being in controlling relat...

10/04/2025

Do you want to speed up your healing process? Read this!

I can't describe the excitement I feel after doing my first EMDR Intensive session after the EMDR conference.

Since the EMDR Conference, I've been using an advanced version of EMDR, referred to as EMDR 2.0. Even though I'd been using some of those techniques before the conference, I can now help clients resolve emotionally laden memories in one third to half of the time!

I did an EMDR Intensive session lasting 3.5 hours. My client completely resolved 5 memories! For those who don't know, resolving memories also resolves present-day symptoms and we get to feel better.

THE BEST CLIENT for an EMDR Intensive is one who is already seeing a therapist and wants to leap ahead in their therapy. If this is you, read more or contact me through my website. Search The Happiness Project Fort Wayne.

Thanks for listening and happy healing!

09/23/2025

Curious about my brand of mindfulness but haven't tried it? Read on:

Hi all! I just love teaching people how to lower stress and feel better in this world. On Thursday, September 18th, I got to present therapeutic mindfulness - as taught in my book Therapeutic Mindfulness: A Healing Skill, Not A Coping Skill. It was too cool that the group in front of me were all peo...

09/17/2025

Hi all! This brief article describes what to expect at my Thursday presentation of Therapeutic Mindfulness. I hope to see you there!

Welcome everyone! Ruth here. I've announced that on Thursday, September 18th at 6:00pm, I will demonstrating Therapeutic Mindfulness. But what makes this different from mindfulness and why should we learn it? I was practicing mindfulness many years before I went back to school to become a therapist....

08/27/2025

A quote from my first session:

"Remember, we're not forcing positivity; we're just observing."

I said this when I was guiding someone to look at the various emotional parts: anger and self-shaming over having deep despair. We can't make big feelings go away not should we dwell. When doing emotional work, I guide people on how to observe without judgment. This leads not only to some healing, but eventually to the ability to practice self-compassion.

There are many ways to implement these ideas. One way I teach can be learned from the book Therapeutic Mindfulness.

I wish you all well in your growth journeys.

08/25/2025

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Welcome to this beautiful day. It's Ruth again, exploring holding space. Last week, I discussed holding space as giving full, caring attention to another without judgment. What do we need to be able to do this? Below are some things to keep in mind: 1. You can't be weighed down too heavily. Holding....

07/16/2025

This is the late poet of Colorado, Andrea Gibson, sharing a work that focuses on the resilience and beauty in the world.

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07/07/2025

Thursday event information is in this newsletter!

Hello everyone. This is Ruth again ready to share about having boundaries and empathy. Why bring this up? Well, it can be tricky to support people without taking on their stress and feeling the responsibility to fix things. There are times when we can fix certain things (such as babysitting a young....

06/23/2025

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06/23/2025

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Welcome back! It's Ruth here, ready to shine a spotlight on how anxiety works in your brain. Let's say anxiety is a salesperson. It knocks on the door of your mind and asks you to let it in. It has a pitch. It says: "There are a lot of terrible things out there that could hurt you and your loved one...