04/15/2026
1. Physical health is not the only marker of well-being. It's the bare minimum. A holistic approach ensuring your mental and emotional health are considered is CRUCIAL.
2. There is not a magic switch that is flipped at 6 weeks postpartum that means you suddenly are ready to return to all pre-birth activities. Your medical provider may determine your body is healthy enough for exercise or s*x, but that doesn't mean you're ready. Perhaps you are, but postpartum isn't the same for everyone and it isn't always linear. Listen to your body and have open discussions with your partner about what you're feeling.
3. Why should you bounce back? You're traveled through a huge life change. You'll never be the same, and that's AMAZING.
4. While exclusive breastfeeding eliminates the cost of formula, it doesn't eliminate the cost of the labor involved. Additionally, most breastfeeding parents still purchase pumps, bags, bottles, & more.
5. They mean well, but putting the responsibility on the postpartum person to reach out generally ensures it'll never happen, even if they really could use help. Instead, bring over a meal (door dropoffs are great!). "I'm on a coffee run, what's your order?" Run or empty the dishwasher if you visit. Ask when you can have their older kids for a play date.
6. Doulas help partners and other caregivers, too! Whether it's a first baby or the fifth, the dynamic is all new and different for everyone. Your doula can help you through the new normals.
7. Yes, in theory, but if the baby only sleeps in 20 minutes chunks and you also haven't showered, eaten, or done laundry in over a week, those sleep times become elusive and hearing this can be maddening. A postpartum doula can help!
8. Have discussions with your coworker before birth so they're aware of your intentions and so they can make the necessary arrangements. If it's an issue once you return to work after birth, it's ok to be assertive. The law is behind you.
9. Everyone loves a tiny baby, but visitors need hosted unless their mindset is one of service and care. Feel free to set boundaries on postpartum visitations if it'll be more of a hindrance than a help.