10/30/2025
What if your breakup wasn’t just emotional—what if it was neurological?
For many raised by emotionally unavailable caregivers, breakups don’t just hurt… they activate everything:
🚨 Fear of abandonment
🚨 Shame for needing too much
🚨 Hypervigilance when someone pulls away
🚨 The compulsion to “fix it” or “earn” love back
If this is you, I want you to hear this:
✨ You’re not broken.
✨ You’re not dramatic.
✨ You’re not weak.
You’re wired for connection—and your nervous system has been doing everything it can to make sense of inconsistency, silence, and emotional disconnection.
This isn’t your fault.
It’s your nervous system doing its job: trying to keep you safe.
But now—you’re not in that past.
Now, you’re allowed to stay in your body, even when it shakes.
Now, you get to unlearn the lie that love must be earned through sacrifice.
Even if they weren’t the one…
Even if you knew they couldn’t stay…
It’s still okay to grieve what never fully became.
To want closure.
To need reassurance.
To feel the ache long after they’ve gone.
But let this be your reminder:
You don’t have to turn them into a villain to honor your healing.
You can hold the full truth: they weren’t all bad, and they still couldn’t meet you where you needed.
And that doesn’t make you unworthy. It makes you honest.
💬 Let me know which slide hit you hardest.
🖤 If you’re grieving the ending of something complicated, I see you.