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10/05/2018

How to forgive. 7 Tips and myths that will Help

Seven Myths Regarding Forgiveness by Christie Jones | Sep 15, 2018 | Uncategorized | 0 comments 1. We should always attempt to “forgive and forget.” It is important, for the sake of healing, to remember a serious injury. We must resolve our losses, not bury them. Also, it is important to protect...

09/25/2018

Why Should I Forgive?

Forgiveness frees us to live in the present— so that we are not continually reliving our past resentments.

The person who wronged us continues to harm us repeatedly until we release the anger and desire for revenge.

Releasing our anger and bitterness is good for the immune system for your overall physical and emotional well being.

Forgiveness is free—Free to give and free to receive.

It takes great inner strength to realize that one can forgive a person who has wronged them and move on. It is empowering to give up the right to get back at someone for hurting them.

When we do not forgive, we limit our ability to reach out as adults—even when we want to.

Holding on to negative resentments can impact our ability to feel and remember. Not only do we learn to block out the bad times, but we have difficulty remembering the good times, as well.

Lack of resolution can force us into a self-protective mode that must keep others at arms length. This limits our receptivity to the love that others may want to extend to us.

Failure to forgive can cause us to project our past fears and beliefs into present circumstances. We may, therefore, mistrust someone who has never done anything to deserve it.

Lack of forgiveness can lead to the construction of walls that lock the needy parts of us inside and deny access to anyone, including God, who can heal and restore us. This can doom us to heap loss upon loss until the pattern of our lives reveals a pattern of unresolved loss and rage that extends to every aspect of our physical and emotional being.