12/01/2025
When the Mind Won’t Stop Talking… and the Body Can’t Get a Word In
Recently, I sat with a client who kept getting pulled back into his thoughts. Each time he tried to describe what he was feeling in his body, he drifted into an old story - explanations, analysis. His body was speaking, but his thoughts kept interrupting.
This pattern is incredibly common.
When I gently invited him to slow down and notice where his sensations were showing up, he instantly shifted back into thinking mode. The narrative felt safer than the body. The story was familiar. The sensations were not.
So we took it slow.
I guided him back to the present moment again and again—into his breath, into his chest, into the places in his body where he felt activation. After several gentle redirections, something softened. His breath deepened. His shoulders released. He finally allowed himself to feel safe in his own body.
Only then could we take the next step in teaching his nervous system what safety actually feels like.
I introduced several breathing techniques and nervous system–calming exercises designed to activate his vagus complex, the pathway responsible for shifting the body out of survival mode and into regulation. With each practice, his system settled further.
And that’s the real work for so many people:
🤔 Learning to notice when the mind is pulling you away from your own experience.
🤔Rebuilding trust with a body that once felt overwhelming or unsafe.
🤔Developing the capacity to feel without bracing.
🤔Practicing skills that help your nervous system come home.
♥️ Healing doesn’t begin when you understand your story.
Healing begins when your body feels safe enough to be part of the story again.
If you find yourself “living from the neck up,” you’re not alone. It’s a survival strategy. And with the right tools and support, you can learn to reconnect gently, slowly, and safely.
⬇️ Message me and I'll send you the 13 regulation tools that I taught this client to feel safe in his body.
