01/18/2026
I think you’re grown when you stop trying to fit people into your views.
When you stop needing everyone to agree with you. When you stop judging their choices because they’re different from yours.
People make decisions that don’t make sense to you. They stay in relationships that are clearly toxic. They chase money and lose themselves. They follow beliefs that limit them. They choose fear over love - stay at jobs they hate, stay with people who drain them, all out of fear.
And you watch and think: “How can they not see? Why don’t they just leave? They’re so lost.”
But here’s what maturity taught me: Everyone is exactly where they need to be.
That person chasing wealth? They’re going to learn it’s empty. That’s their lesson to learn, not yours to prevent.
That person staying in toxicity? They’re learning about boundaries, self-worth, what they’ll tolerate. That’s their curriculum.
That person choosing fear over love? They’re learning what it costs to betray themselves. What it feels like to live small. They’ll choose love when the cost of fear becomes unbearable. Not when you think they should.
Your judgment doesn’t speed up their lesson. It doesn’t save them. It just keeps you stuck in superiority. In needing to be right.
Real growth is releasing the need for everyone to walk your path.
You can set boundaries. You can walk away from what doesn’t serve you. But you don’t need them to be wrong for you to choose differently.
Their path is theirs. Yours is yours.
And here’s the deeper truth: What you judge in them is often what you haven’t healed in yourself. Their fear triggers yours. Their staying stuck reminds you of where you’re stuck. Their choices bother you because somewhere, you’re making similar ones. When you truly understand this judgement becomes useless .