12/25/2025
Sometimes the most confusing relationships
are the ones where the other person truly believes theyāre doing good.
From a nervous system lens,
ākindnessā can become a way to feel safeā
to secure closeness, appreciation, or control.
When that safety is disrupted,
the body may move into threat responses:
hurt, guilt, withdrawal, resentment.
This doesnāt always come from conscious manipulation.
Often, itās a pattern learned early
where connection required being āgood enough.ā
And hereās the trauma-informed truth:
š Your body tracks impact, not intent.
If you feel tense, small, exhausted, or constantly explaining yourself,
thatās information worth listening to.
Healing doesnāt start with blaming.
It starts with noticing, orienting inward,
and letting your nervous system guide your boundaries.
Youāre allowed to trust what your body knows.
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Evolve Somatic Psychotherapy
Trauma-informed | Body-based | Relational
š California & Israel