René R. Huerta, Sr. LMFT, PPS

06/21/2025

I Am Not Failing.
This is not quitting; this is regrouping.
The more I’ve pushed for growth, the more old wounds have ripped open.
The more I’ve pursued knowledge, the more I’ve bled love.
I am not abandoning my dream; I am building the only foundation that can sustain it.
I am not betraying what I love; I am refusing to sacrifice my heart for the illusion of progress.
This is not weakness.
This is a sacred retreat.
It is the withdrawal before the return.
And yet, this choice breaks my heart.
To my Sacred Travelers, my psyche tribe, my brothers and sisters in this sacred work:
If you ever wondered if your presence mattered to me, know this:
It did. It does. It always will.
You have become more than just peers.
You are my mirrors, my companions, my teachers.
You have held me in the darkest hours, even when I was too proud or too broken to say thank you.
You have made me laugh when I felt hollow, pushed me when I felt weak, and reminded me of my purpose when I felt lost.
I know the rhythms of your laughter.
I know the fierce, wild brilliance of your minds.
I have felt the weight of your grief, and the fire of your passion.
We have wrestled the same shadows, and dared the same fears.
But now, you will continue this journey without me.
You will walk these halls, wrestle with these ideas, and sit in the quiet, sacred spaces we have carved out together.
You will move forward; braver, deeper, more complete; while I take this time to mend what has been torn within me.
You have left an imprint on my soul that I will carry with me long after I walk away from these halls.
If you ever find yourself missing my presence, know that I will be missing yours a thousandfold.
And it is with that love that I turn back, for now, to the people who need me most.
I will not sacrifice my love for my ambition.
I choose to return to my family, not as a ghost, but as a father, a husband, a whole man.

In myth, this is the wounded king leaving the throne to heal, so he can return wiser and whole.
This is Arthur going to Avalon, not just falling on the battlefield.
I am reclaiming my soul.
I am choosing love over conquest.
I am becoming more than I was, not less.
I am the king, the father, the lover, the healer.
Not just the scholar.
Not just the patient.
Not just the broken man.
My fellow travelers on this difficult road:
I wish you nothing but happiness, success, and deep, abiding peace.
May you find the meaning you seek, the wholeness you deserve, and the love that heals all wounds.
This is my rite of passage, and it will make me more than I am, not less.

Until we meet again my beloved Weavers.

06/07/2025

"Dancing with the Devil: Despair as Descent, Not Defeat"

There are long nights of the soul, haunting nights, when despair doesn't knock but floods in like a storm no one saw coming. Like an ancient tide crashing into the psyche. When the air feels too heavy, like breathing in smoke, and tomorrow becomes an unrecognizable haze. Lately, I’ve found myself in that place again, dancing with the devil.

Jelly Roll’s song haunts me. “I’m dancing with the devil. I ain't got no chance in heaven.”

It isn’t just music to me but a confession from my soul. It’s the scream of the soul echoing through the hollows of the psyche, naming what so often goes unnamed. The agony of carrying pain so familiar it begins to feel like home.

Yet this is not pathology, it’s a descent.

Carl Jung wrote, “No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.” It’s not an option but we must descend. Not because we are broken, but because the soul demands it. Because there are wounded, furious, abandoned, raging, raw, and long exiled parts of us that can only be found when we sit beside them in the underworld.

The ‘devil’ is rarely a stranger. It might not show it’s horns. It may wear our own masks. Or our forgotten faces. These could be Addiction that numbs, Anger that shields the pain, Isolation that feels safer than love, or the cruel belief, “I don’t deserve to belong.”

But we shouldn’t banish these shadows. We need to listen. To dialogue. To get close enough to hear what it’s been crying in silence. Beneath every relapse, withdrawal, rampage, and chaos is a soul. That guarded inner child, still dreading the moment it’ll be abandoned, longing to be enough.

In myths, this is Orpheus in the underworld, the soul drifting in the night-sea, the trembling in front of the Dark Mother’s gaze. It’s Christ in the stillness of the tomb, not yet risen. It’s the moment before resurrection. It’s the pause before the soul’s transformation.

I don't write this from the light. I’m still in the underworld. Still exhausted. Still searching. Still clawing for a reason to rise. I’m still breathless. Still buried. Still wondering if the light will find me again.

But even here, in this pit of despair, Jelly Roll’s voice feels like a prayer rising from the smoke. A voice calling the soul home. "I’ve been dancing with the devil… Way too long… It’s time to move on."

Maybe all we can do right now is name the shadow, feel the weight of it, and begin crawling inch by inch to find those fragmented parts. Not to move toward perfection but towards making ourselves whole again.

When despair is honored, not fixed or hidden away, it becomes sacred ground.

It means the old self is dying.

It means the masks have cracked.

And maybe beneath, is a soul worth saving.

“Well I, I tell myself I'm just a guy
Who's been down on his luck his whole life
And I feel like I'm lead by the blind, by the blind
Oh, I met the devil one Saturday night
Grabbed the bottle and I came alive
What happened when I followed the lines
Was just lies

I only drink when I'm feelin' alone
Tobacco's not the only thing that I smoke
I get too loose at the end of my rope
I know that I need to change, but I don't
I've gotten used to me feelin' this low
I'm on the edge of just losin' control
Only thing keeps him from stealin' my soul
God, don't let me go
I only dance with the devil I know

Oh I, I've crossed that line too many times
My friends tell me that I'm gonna die
If I don't change my ways
They tell me they're prayin' for me

I only drink when I'm feelin' alone
Tobacco's not the only thing that I smoke
I get too loose at the end of my rope
I know that I need to change, but I don't
I've gotten used to me feelin' this low
I'm on the edge of just losin' control
Only thing keeps him from stealin' my soul
God, don't let me go
I only dance with the devil I know

Oh, wash it all away
Wash it all away from me
Because of amazing grace
I'm better than I used to be
I only drink when I'm feelin' alone
Tobacco's not the only thing that I smoke
I get too loose at the end of my rope
I know that I need to change, but I don't
I've gotten used to me feelin' this low
I'm on the edge of just losin' control
Only thing keeps him from stealin' my soul
God, don't let me go
I only dance with the devil I know

Devil I know, the devil I know
Dance with only the devil”

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10/03/2024

Climate Mental Health: What It Is and How It Can Help You?

Climate change isn’t just a news headline, it’s something we all feel in different ways. Maybe you’ve found yourself worrying about things like wildfires, floods, or extreme weather. Or maybe you feel a sense of sadness when you see how nature is changing. These feelings are more common than you might think, and they’re all part of what’s now called climate mental health.

What is Climate Mental Health?

Climate mental health is about how climate change affects your emotions and mental well-being. Some people feel anxious about the future of the planet, while others might feel stressed, helpless, or even guilty about their impact on the environment. These feelings are real and valid, and taking care of your climate mental health means learning how to cope with them in a healthy way.

How Can It Help You?

Eases Anxiety and Stress:
It’s normal to feel stressed when you think about the future of the planet. Whether it’s worrying about extreme weather or the impact of climate change on your life, these thoughts can weigh heavy on your mind. Climate mental health support helps you manage that stress by acknowledging it and finding ways to work through it.

Gives You Hope and Resilience:
It’s easy to feel defeated or hopeless when faced with the enormity of climate change. But focusing on what you can do, even if it’s small, builds resilience. You’ll find that staying hopeful and strong is possible when you focus on the actions you can take rather than feeling overwhelmed by what’s out of your control.

Encourages Positive Action:
Doing something, no matter how small, can make you feel empowered. Whether it’s recycling more, using less energy, or advocating for environmental change, taking action for the planet can actually help improve your mental health. It gives you a sense of purpose and control.

Connects You to Others:
You’re not alone in your climate worries.
Many people feel the same way, and climate mental health is about building connections with those who understand. Joining a group or even talking with friends and family who share your concerns can help reduce feelings of isolation.

How to Take Care of Your Climate Mental Health

Talk About Your Feelings:
If you’re feeling stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed by climate change, don’t keep it bottled up. Talking to someone you trust—a friend, a family member, or a therapist—can be a huge relief. There are even therapists who specialize in climate mental health if you feel like you need more guidance.

Practice Mindfulness and Self-Care:
It’s easy to get wrapped up in worry, but taking care of yourself is important. Mindfulness techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or simply spending time in nature can help calm your mind. Find what relaxes you, whether it’s reading, taking a walk, or just unplugging from social media for a bit.

Take Small Steps Toward Helping the Planet:
You don’t need to change the world overnight. Even small actions, like using less plastic, planting trees, or reducing your energy use, can help. When you do something positive for the environment, it gives you a sense of accomplishment and control over the situation.

Set Realistic Goals:
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed if you try to tackle everything at once. Instead, set small, achievable goals for how you can help. Whether it’s reducing your water use or biking instead of driving, focus on what’s manageable for you. Celebrate the progress you make, no matter how small it seems.

Educate Yourself:
Sometimes, learning more about climate change and what can be done can actually make you feel better. When you understand the issues and the solutions, you can make informed decisions and share that knowledge with others. Feeling empowered is a big part of staying positive about the future.

Join a Community:
Whether it’s online or in person, connecting with others who care about the climate can be incredibly helpful. You’ll find support, share ideas, and feel less alone in your concerns. There are plenty of local groups, volunteer opportunities, and online communities where you can meet like-minded people.

Final Thoughts

Climate change affects more than just the environment, it affects how we feel about the future. But by acknowledging these emotions and taking care of your mental health, you can find a sense of balance. Remember, it’s okay to feel anxious or worried, but it’s also important to take steps to care for yourself. Whether it’s talking to someone, practicing mindfulness, or taking small actions to help the planet, you can protect your mental well-being while making a positive impact.

You’re not alone in feeling this way. Together, we can face these challenges with hope, resilience, and care for both ourselves and the Earth.

09/26/2024

Setting Boundaries for Your Emotional Well-Being

Feeling emotionally drained because people constantly ask too much of you? Or do you find it hard to say "no," even when you're stressed, tired, or exhausted? This is where setting boundaries can be a game-changer for your emotional well-being. Boundaries are important for taking care of your emotional health. Let's talk about why they matter and how to set them.

What are Boundaries?

Think of boundaries as invisible barriers that protect your space, time, energy, and feelings. They're not about shutting people out, but about defining what you're comfortable with so others know how to treat you. When you set healthy boundaries, you're creating space for yourself to feel more at ease, less overwhelmed, and prevents from being taken advantage of.

Why Boundaries Matter

• Self-Respect: Boundaries not only reinforce the message to yourself and others that your needs and feelings matter but also that you know your worth.
• Prevent Burnout: You can’t do everything. You can't pour from an empty cup. Boundaries ensure you have time to rest and recharge.
• Healthier Relationships: Clear boundaries make relationships smoother by helping others understand your limits.
• Emotional Protection: Boundaries act as a buffer, preventing you from becoming emotionally drained by others' problems or issues.

Types of Boundaries

• Physical Boundaries: These are about your personal space or physical touch. For example, maybe you don’t like people hugging you without asking first.
• Emotional Boundaries: Allow you to protect your feelings. For example, if you’re overwhelmed, you can let someone know you need some space from their problems.
• Time Boundaries: Managing your time is important. If you’re busy or tired, it’s okay to say, “No!”
• Mental Boundaries: Everyone has their own thoughts or beliefs, and that’s okay. It’s important to respect other people’s views without letting them change how you feel.

How to Set Healthy Boundaries

1. Know Your Limits: Pay attention to what makes you stressed or uncomfortable. These are areas where you might need stronger boundaries.
2. Speak Up: Be clear when telling others what you need. Communicate your needs in a respectful way. Saying “No” is not selfish. It’s okay to say “No” without feeling bad.
3. Listen to Your Feelings: If you’re feeling frustrated or overwhelmed, it could mean someone has crossed a boundary.
4. Stay Consistent: Once you set a boundary, stick to it. People might push back at first, but over time, they’ll understand it if you remain firm.

Final Thoughts

Setting boundaries is one of the most powerful acts of self-care. It protects your energy, reduces stress, and improves relationships. Remember, it’s okay to put yourself first sometimes. When you respect your own boundaries, others will too.
Start today by thinking of one boundary you can set and start practicing. If you’re finding it difficult to define or implement boundaries, consider reaching out to a licensed psychotherapist or clinical psychologist for support.

You’ll be surprised at how much better you’ll feel, and your emotional well-being will thank you!

Rene R. Huerta, Sr. LMFT, PPS, PsyD Student

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09/15/2024

I have a possible dissertation topic and title.

Intersectionality: Exploring how race, socioeconomic status, and cultural identity intersect to influence the development of gang culture and addiction in Latinx communities.

09/09/2024

I just returned from an emotionally, spiritually, and mentally exhausting first weekend of my second year PsyD program.

"There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition , and of unspeakable love."
Washington Irving

06/16/2024

For your daily contemplation.

Consider the beautiful grace of your existence as a man. How can you make today memorable for yourself and those you love? Perhaps it’s through acts of kindness, heartfelt conversations, or simply being present.

From Illuman

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06/15/2024

For you daily contemplation.

Being a man is like standing at the crossroads of strength and vulnerability. It’s about embracing the King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover within. Describe your manhood in a single word. Is it resilience, compassion, or perhaps wisdom?

From Illuman

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06/06/2024

This is what grief is.

A hole ripped through the very fabric of your being.
The hole eventually heals along the jagged edges that remain. It may even shrink in size.
But that hole will always be there.
A piece of you always missing.
For where there is deep grief, there was great love.
Don’t be ashamed of your grief.
Don’t judge it.
Don’t suppress it.
Don’t rush it.
Rather, acknowledge it.
Lean into it.
Listen to it.
Feel it.
Sit with it.
Sit with the pain. And remember the love.
This is where the healing will begin.

05/27/2024

🕊️ Navigating Grief: Understanding and Healing After Loss 🕊️

Losing a loved one is something that can rattle the very foundation of our lives. Grief is not simply a series of emotions; it's a journey that can shake our resiliency and capacity to cope. It's important to realize and remember that grief is a very personal experience. There is no "right" way to grieve. One day, emotions can vary from sadness and anger to feelings of guilt and even relief—often in the same day. Here are a few thoughts on navigating this difficult time:

Let Yourself Feel: There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Embrace whatever feelings you may have going on. Each of your feelings carries information in it and processing them allows the healing process to begin.

Seek Support: Talking about your loss is very helpful in and of itself. Your friends, family, or a good therapist will provide a safe place to let out your feelings.

Establish Rituals: Simple rituals, like lighting a candle daily, or visiting a special place, bring comfort and a sense of continuity.
Take Care of Yourself: Grief can be exhausting. Try to maintain routines that take care of you: get enough rest, eat well, and exercise.

Be Patient With Yourself: Grieving takes time. It's okay to have good days and bad days. Healing does not mean forgetting. It means healing the loss into your life and finding a way to move forward.

If you experience your grief as overwhelming, or if it gets in the way of your functioning, you should seek professional help. Therapy is a guided journey through grief and offers not only the pathway to understanding pain but also strategies to manage pain and take steps forward.

To all those who are grieving out there, know that this is not a path you have to take alone. Help is at hand, and it's all right to ask for it when you're ready.



🕊️ Navegando el Duelo: Comprensión y Sanación Tras la Pérdida de un Ser Querido 🕊️

Perder a un ser querido es una experiencia que puede sacudir profundamente los cimientos de nuestras vidas. El duelo no es solo una serie de respuestas emocionales; es un viaje que puede poner a prueba nuestra resiliencia y capacidad para afrontar.
Es importante recordar que el duelo es una experiencia profundamente personal y no hay una "manera correcta" de enfrentarlo. Las emociones pueden variar desde tristeza y enojo hasta culpa y alivio, a veces todo en un solo día. Aquí algunas reflexiones sobre cómo navegar este tiempo desafiante:
1. Permítete Sentir: Acepta todas tus emociones, sean las que sean. Cada emoción lleva información y procesarlas permite que comience la sanación.
2. Busca Apoyo: Hablar de tu pérdida puede ser sanador. Grupos de apoyo, amigos, familiares o un terapeuta pueden proporcionar un espacio seguro para expresar tus sentimientos.
3. Establece Rituales: Rituales simples como encender una vela diariamente o visitar un lugar especial pueden proporcionar consuelo y un sentido de continuidad.
4. Cuida de Ti Mismo: El duelo puede ser agotador. Intenta mantener rutinas que nutran tu bienestar, incluyendo descanso suficiente, nutrición adecuada y ejercicio regular.
5. Ten Paciencia Contigo Mismo: El duelo toma tiempo. Está bien tener días buenos y días malos. Sanar no significa olvidar—significa integrar la pérdida en tu vida y encontrar una manera de continuar.
Si encuentras que tu duelo es abrumador o si interfiere con tu capacidad para funcionar, considera buscar ayuda profesional. La terapia puede ofrecer un camino guiado a través del duelo, proporcionando no solo comprensión, sino también estrategias para manejar el dolor y avanzar.
Para cualquiera que esté experimentando un duelo, recuerda que no es un viaje que debas recorrer solo. La ayuda está disponible y está bien pedirla cuando te sientas listo.
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05/10/2024

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Since its inception in 1949, Mental Health Awareness Month has been a cornerstone of addressing the challenges faced by millions of Americans living with mental health conditions.

11/17/2023

Dream Weavers PsyD Cohort!