Jessica V Therapy

Jessica V Therapy Helping perfectionists find freedom from self-doubt and overthinking

Perfectionism has shaped so much of my life, and now, it’s shaping my work in the best way possible. I’m so excited to s...
10/27/2025

Perfectionism has shaped so much of my life, and now, it’s shaping my work in the best way possible.

I’m so excited to share that I’ll be presenting at this year’s AAMFT Systemic Family Therapy Virtual Conference!

My workshop, “Reframing Perfectionism Through a Systemic Lens,” dives into how perfectionism develops and operates within our relationships — and how we can move toward more compassion, balance, and connection (for our clients and ourselves).

This topic means a lot to me — it’s both my clinical focus and a very personal journey. Learning to understand my own perfectionism has helped me reconnect with myself, find confidence, and practice more self-compassion… and it’s such a privilege to help others do the same.

If you’ll be at the conference (October 28th-30th), I’d love for you to join my session or connect afterward!

Somewhere along the way, you were taught that quitting means you're weak.That you have to push through, keep going, and ...
05/08/2025

Somewhere along the way, you were taught that quitting means you're weak.
That you have to push through, keep going, and prove your worth—no matter how tired, overwhelmed, or misaligned you feel.

If that message has stayed with you, you're not alone.

But what if we paused to ask:
🌿 Has this belief truly supported me?
🌿 Where has it created pain, burnout, or disconnection?
🌿 What might it feel like to choose myself instead?

Choosing to step away, to rest, to say “this isn’t right for me”—that’s not failure.
That’s self-respect.
That’s healing.

You’re allowed to honor your needs.
You're allowed to change your mind.
You're allowed to begin again—on your terms.

If this spoke to something in you, let it land.
Like it, save it, or share it with someone who might need this reminder too.
And if you feel called, I’d love to hear in the comments:
What belief are you ready to let go of?

Friendly reminder: Social media is not a substitute for therapy.

As an overachiever, I’ve spent so much of my life planning—always making sure I had something to do, something to prepar...
05/06/2025

As an overachiever, I’ve spent so much of my life planning—always making sure I had something to do, something to prepare for, even during my downtime. It gave me a sense of purpose, like I was always moving forward. But recently, I’ve been challenging myself to take a ‘no plan’ day—just letting things unfold without the usual structure.

At first, it felt unsettling, like I was wasting time. But slowly, I’m realizing that the discomfort of letting go is actually freeing. It’s teaching me that I don’t need constant tasks to feel good about myself.

It’s a process, but I’m starting to embrace the peace that comes from not always having a plan.

What would a ‘no plan’ day feel like for you? Can you imagine taking a break from your constant to-do list? Share your thoughts below.

Friendly disclaimer: Social media is not a substitute for therapy,

To the perfectionists who feel like everything is life or death…I see you.I see how heavy the pressure is when your mind...
05/02/2025

To the perfectionists who feel like everything is life or death…

I see you.

I see how heavy the pressure is when your mind tells you that one mistake could unravel everything. I see how you carry the belief that getting it "right" isn't just about success—it's about survival. Like if you fall short, everything could fall apart.

That’s not weakness. That’s what happens when your nervous system has learned to equate safety with control.

But you don’t have to earn your worth by getting it all perfect. You were already enough before the striving, before the proving, before the fear set in.

It's okay to pause. To breathe. To remember that most things aren't life or death—even if it feels that way right now.

You are allowed to get it wrong. You are allowed to be uncertain. You are allowed to rest.

And you're still worthy.

Save, share, or like if this resonated with you.

When we think of perfectionism, we often picture ambition, pressure, and achievement.But perfectionism can be much quiet...
05/01/2025

When we think of perfectionism, we often picture ambition, pressure, and achievement.

But perfectionism can be much quieter than that.

It can shape how we dress, how we speak, how we rest — and how safe we feel simply existing in our bodies.

This post is an invitation to notice the subtle places where perfectionism shows up in your life.

Not to judge it. Just to notice. Awareness is the first step toward softening the grip.

You are allowed to be whole, even when things aren’t perfect. 💛

Have you noticed perfectionism showing up in unexpected ways? You're not alone — feel free to share or reflect silently. Both are welcome here.

Friendly reminder/disclaimer: social media is not a substitute for therapy.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for resting — you’re not alone.So many of us were taught that our value is tied to how much w...
04/29/2025

If you’ve ever felt guilty for resting — you’re not alone.

So many of us were taught that our value is tied to how much we do.
But here’s the truth: Rest is a gift — not a weakness.

Rest gives you the energy to keep creating, leading, and achieving without sacrificing your health or peace of mind.

If you’ve been pushing yourself too hard, remember: you deserve recovery as much as anyone.

💬 What’s one thing that’s helped you rest without guilt?
Sharing your thoughts might just help someone else find the balance they need.

You’ve always been the one who pushes hard, reaches high, and doesn’t stop until it’s just right.But even with the accom...
04/23/2025

You’ve always been the one who pushes hard, reaches high, and doesn’t stop until it’s just right.
But even with the accomplishments, do you ever feel like it’s still not enough?

That’s the quiet weight perfectionism carries.
Always striving.
Rarely resting.
Never quite feeling worthy.

This carousel is for the high achiever who’s tired… not just physically, but emotionally.

💛 You are allowed to be kind to yourself.
💛 You are allowed to rest without guilt.
💛 You are allowed to be enough—without doing more.

Self-compassion isn’t weakness. It’s the beginning of healing.

If any of this resonates, know you’re not alone. I see you. I’ve been you. And I’d be honored to support you.

🕊️ Save this post for when you need a reminder.
📩 Link in bio if you're ready to take the next step toward feeling more peace in your life.

Friendly reminder/disclaimer: social media is not a substitute for therapy.

As we move into the weekend, it’s worth pausing to consider how our phone use impacts our mental health. Constant connec...
04/18/2025

As we move into the weekend, it’s worth pausing to consider how our phone use impacts our mental health. Constant connectivity can contribute to anxiety, stress, sleep disturbances, and even feelings of loneliness or low self-worth. Taking intentional breaks from our devices can create space for rest, reflection, and reconnection—with ourselves and those around us. Here are six mental health benefits of unplugging this weekend.

Weekend Challenge: Try a mini digital detox—whether it’s a few hours or a whole day. Notice how you feel, and come back to share your experience. Let’s support each other in setting healthy boundaries.

“You don’t need to be liked by everyone to be worthy of love and respect.”For many, the need to be liked isn’t just abou...
04/16/2025

“You don’t need to be liked by everyone to be worthy of love and respect.”

For many, the need to be liked isn’t just about social connection — it’s rooted in early survival strategies. As children, being accepted often felt essential for safety, stability, and love. So people-pleasing can become second nature.

As adults, this can show up as chronic self-editing, difficulty setting boundaries, or feeling anxious when there's even a hint of disapproval.

Wanting to be liked is human. But it's important to ask:

→ Stretching yourself to meet others’ expectations?
→ What is the emotional cost of constantly chasing approval?

The truth is — authenticity is what creates meaningful connection, not performance. And when we show up as our full selves, we allow the right people to meet us there.

This is work I support clients with — learning to untangle self-worth from others' approval, and reconnecting with their authentic selves. If this speaks to you, feel free to share, save, or reflect in the comments.

If you’re looking for support, I’m currently accepting virtual clients across California. You can reach out via the link in bio to learn more or schedule a consultation.

Friendly reminder/disclaimer: Social media is not a substitute for therapy.




I’ve been wanting to share this for a while, but I hesitated because I didn’t fully believe it for myself yet. As perfec...
04/15/2025

I’ve been wanting to share this for a while, but I hesitated because I didn’t fully believe it for myself yet. As perfectionists, we often fear disappointing others or hurting their feelings, thinking we’re responsible for their emotional well-being. But the truth is, each person is responsible for their own feelings.

So, here’s a gentle reminder: It’s okay to let people down sometimes. It’s a natural part of life, and it doesn’t reflect anything negative about you. Take a moment today to release that weight. You are not responsible for others’ emotions.

What’s one small step you can take today to release the pressure of perfectionism? Share in the comments below if you'd like to explore this more. I’m here to support you.

Friendly reminder: Social media is not a substitute for therapy.

Upcoming Live Interview – April 17 at 1PM PST I'm honored to be joined by Amy Furuyama, a licensed mental health profess...
04/11/2025

Upcoming Live Interview – April 17 at 1PM PST

I'm honored to be joined by Amy Furuyama, a licensed mental health professional, for a heartfelt conversation about healing, growth, and the quiet challenges so many of us carry.

Together, we’ll explore:
🌿 What inspired their path as a therapist
🌿 Common struggles clients bring into the room
🌿 How perfectionism quietly shapes our experiences
🌿 Compassionate ways to work through it
🌿 And a gentle truth everyone should know about s*x therapy

This space is for anyone who’s felt the weight of perfectionism, who’s navigating relationships and intimacy, or who’s simply curious about the power of therapy. You’re not alone — and you don’t have to figure it out alone, either.

🗓️ Join us live on Thursday April 17th at 1PM PST — we’d love to have you with us.
💌 Got a question you'd love answered during the live? DM us or drop it in the comments — your voice matters here.

Feeling guilty for not being perfect? You’re not alone.Perfectionism can make us believe that missing a deadline, saying...
04/10/2025

Feeling guilty for not being perfect? You’re not alone.

Perfectionism can make us believe that missing a deadline, saying "no," or even making a mistake means something is wrong with us. But here's the truth: Guilt doesn't always mean you've done something wrong.

In this post, I’m sharing three powerful ways to separate guilt from morality and embrace your humanity without judgment:

1️⃣ Missing a task ≠ bad person.
2️⃣ Saying no ≠ selfish.
3️⃣ You are not a robot — you’re allowed to rest, make mistakes, and prioritize yourself.

Remember, you're human, not a machine. You don't need to be perfect to be worthy. Let go of the guilt and give yourself the grace you deserve.

Save this post if you need a reminder to be kinder to yourself today.
And share it with someone who needs it.

Friendly reminder: Social media is not a substitute for therapy.

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