Find-Within: Therapy, Counseling , Education by Kris Gooding

05/17/2023

This approach/ perspective is useful to alot of parents… even kids not on the spectrum. Just useful as a general way of being mindful in our parenting in terms of adjusting our behavior to the needs of our particular kids

03/14/2023

Kids who have experienced toxic stress or complex trauma often have parts of themselves that hold toxic shame.

And then their verrrrry brave watchdog and/or possum parts work so so SO hard to protect them from re-experiencing that toxic shame.

That controlling watchdog? Or the one that is cussing at you or running away?

The possum who is checked out in la-la land? Or working sooooooo hard to be exactly who everyone else wants them to be (people pleasing)?

Those parts may just be hard at work protecting themselves from ever experiencing the terror of toxic shame.

Of course- as always- I'm not excusing behavior that is hurting people.

But- something shifts in me when I remember that the troublesome behavior we see might be protecting that person from reexperiencing the physiological sensation of shame.

This week's episode is part 2 in a 3 part series on toxic shame.

What Does Toxic Shame Look Like?

Find the Parenting after Trauma podcast in your favorite podcast app to find out!

03/10/2023

Interrogating The Box
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From a young age, boys are inundated with messages that teach them not to cry, openly express emotions, or show any sign of weakness for fear of appearing we...

02/08/2023

Focusing on understanding what's driving behavior can sometimes make it feel like we aren't addressing the behavior at all. It can feel as if we are boundaryless and permissive. This episode sheds light on what boundaries really are and how focusing on regulation, connection and felt-safety increase...

02/05/2023

Understanding behavior helps us actually solve the problem, leads to compassion, and actually helps behavior to change, but first we must understand why we are so afraid that understanding behaviors means we are excusing "bad" behaviors.

02/02/2023

Ive been asked about resources for parents in how to use and make actionable the ideas we now know from developmental brain research, healthy attachment etc- here is one

What does it mean to be a Peaceful Parent? Find out here.

02/02/2023

Great resource

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02/02/2023