11/15/2025
Do not make this mistake!
Couples wait far too long - SIX years into their problems, on average - before seeking help.
They often tell me they wish they’d done this sooner….
You do not have to endure months and years of relationship turmoil or disconnection.
You are missing out.
There’s a huge stigma and misconception that going to couples therapy means the relationship is over, it’s admitting defeat, or will peg blame on you.
But the truth is, a good therapist has a balanced approach without “taking sides”.
And starting therapy is a bold move.
Yes, it can feel vulnerable to bring your private relationship to someone to witness.
But it shows courage.
And that you both care enough about the relationship to try something different.
We’ve got to open to new ideas when just figuring it out isn’t working.
Otherwise we keep getting the same results.
I’ve seen couples undo stuck patterns in just a few sessions. Like helping someone open the lid of a jar with the twist of a different hand.
And it’s not shameful or weak to get help.
It’s a fact of life that together we can move mountains we couldn’t alone.
And I see newer couples - still dating, engaged, or newly wed - in search of what I call “preventive care.”
They want to preserve what’s good and healthy about the relationship.
I admire their wisdom and foresight.
That we’re ALL at risk of losing this over time.
Sometimes so gradually we don’even perceive it slipping away.
I teach them the most common communication landmines, so they don’t blow up their relationship.
I explain how to avoid them before they even start.
I give them tools to deepen emotional intimacy to levels they never knew possible.
Because here’s the thing: if you work on your communication, you can face anything life deals you, together successfully.
But most people aren’t even aware that HOW they speak to each other is often the root of their problems.
My virtual counseling exposes these roots. Empowering you to get at the source and build on a solid foundation of mindful communication I call “Lovitation”
And online now, meetings have never been easier, or more accessible, saving you time, and further stress.
But please.
Do not wait any longer to prioritize your relationship.
Our happiness effects everything in our lives.
Especially if you have kids! They pick up on everything.
Make sure you tend to your relationship.
It’s the pillar that must stand strong.
Like a garden.
It needs nurturing.
Not just to survive.
That’s too mediocre.
Who wants that?
But to BLOOM! 🌼 🌺 🌹
https://www.alisonbulman.com/post/don-t-wait-enhance-your-relationship-with-online-therapy
