Your Birth Doula

12/10/2025

I don’t think we talk about D-MER (Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex) enough.

When I was nursing my second baby, he would latch and I’d immediately feel this awful drop in my stomach. Almost like nausea mixed with panic. I’d get this wave of doom wash over me, like I was drowning or trapped, and for a few minutes I genuinely wanted to scream.

And then… as soon as my letdown was over, I was totally fine again.
Smiling. Nursing. Normal.

I had no idea this was an actual medical thing. I thought something was wrong with me. I felt horrible for having those feelings during something that was “supposed” to be beautiful.

But D-MER is REAL.
It’s not postpartum depression.
It’s not you “hating breastfeeding.”
It’s not you being ungrateful.
It’s literally a reflex, a sudden drop in dopamine during letdown that causes a wave of sadness, nausea, anxiety, irritability, or panic for just those few minutes.

If this is you, you’re not alone and you’re not broken.
Your body is doing something hormonal, not something emotional.
And it doesn’t make you a bad mom, not even a little bit. 🤍

Sometimes just knowing there’s a name for what you’re experiencing is enough to make you breathe again.

12/02/2025

This is what breastfeeding moms mean when talking about the scrutiny they receive.

Random things people have told me are “signs” to stop breastfeeding and why none of them are actual reasons:

“If they can ask for it, they’re too old.”
Babies communicate early. Some can sign, gesture, or talk before their first birthday. Should I have ignored all medical recommendations and handed them a cheeseburger instead? No. Development ≠ deadline.

“They’re wiggling and climbing all over you that means they’re done.”
If breastfeeding required babies to sit perfectly still, none of us would’ve made it past newborn stage. Wiggles, acrobatics, upside-down latches… that’s literally just them learning how bodies work.

“Once they turn one, it’s over.”
Apparently at midnight on their first birthday my b***s are supposed to turn into decorative pumpkins and the milk self-destructs. Meanwhile, real science says: keep going as long as it works for you and your baby.

“They bit you. Time to quit.”
Teething is rough. Exploration is normal. And no, one accidental bite does not mean I throw in the nursing towel forever. If biting ended feeding, nobody would ever survive toddlerhood.

“You’re only still breastfeeding for yourself.”
If only they knew. I do this because it calms her. Because she still falls asleep this way. Because it’s comfort, connection, regulation, nutrition all wrapped into one. This isn’t selfish; it’s responsive mothering.

Experts with actual credentials (not people who “read something once”) recommend nursing up to two years and beyond if it’s working. And guess what? It’s working for us.

So unless someone is the one up at 2am nursing a tiny breakdancer who pinches, twirls, and attempts parkour mid-latch… maybe just let moms feed their babies however works best.

11/20/2025

11/19/2025

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11/16/2025

Don’t worry, this dad is ready!! In the splash zone with the safety shades and everything…

11/05/2025

A new program seton is implementing, Family Connect. It’s a postpartum HOME visit! Has anyon utilized this yet?

The first few days and weeks home with a new baby can be a challenging time for all families, and research indicates that more than 90 percent of families can use some additional support. Family Connects Austin/Travis County nurses are trained to answer questions and connect families with the suppor...

10/27/2025

Midwife student life.. my daughter, husband and friend/preceptor let me practice IVs! Started one for each of them 💕

10/24/2025

The 2025 Cochrane review on immediate and early skin-to-skin contact after birth highlights that further randomized controlled trials comparing skin-to-skin contact with ‘usual care’ are no longer ethical.

The findings show there is now enough evidence to make immediate skin-to-skin contact after birth the global standard of care, and as WHO already recommends skin-to-skin the standard of care, the authors argue that randomizing the separation of mother and newborn may no longer be justifiable.

Read more:
https://centerforbreastfeeding.org/cochrane-review-2025

10/20/2025

10/20/2025

Studying during a kiddos field trip… who needs pink noise for focus when you can have hundreds of screaming children at a trampoline park?!