10/23/2025
If you’ve ever felt frustrated, hurt, or even a little jealous that your parent cooperates better with their caregiver than with you, you’re not alone.
We hear this from families all the time!!!
Here’s what’s really happening: ♥️ it’s not about you. ♥️
When you help your parent with personal care, there’s a lifetime of complicated emotions in the room.
They remember when they were the one giving you baths. They feel embarrassed.
They might feel like they’re losing their role as your parent. Sometimes saying no to you is one of the few ways they still feel in control.
But with a professional caregiver, it’s different.
There’s no history to navigate.
No role reversal to process.
Your parent can accept help without it changing the fundamental relationship they have with you.
This is actually one of the biggest gifts home care provides.
It lets you go back to being their daughter or son instead of being their caregiver.
You get to have conversations over coffee instead of arguments about hygiene.
You get to enjoy your time together instead of spending it managing their care.
The caregivers on our team understand this dynamic. They’re trained to preserve dignity, build trust, and help your loved one feel comfortable accepting support.
Most of our clients end up looking forward to their caregiver’s visits.
So if your mom listens to her caregiver better than she listens to you, that’s not a problem.
That’s exactly how it should work.
If you’re feeling burned out trying to do it all yourself, or if the relationship with your parent is getting strained, let’s talk.
Sometimes bringing in professional support is the best thing you can do for both of you. 🩷
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