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03/13/2026

How to Be Stuck Forever

Hope the next moment
will be better than this one.

The doorway to freedom
is never away from now.

03/12/2026

How Not to Be Ruled by Fear

In an awakened space
you do not try to get rid of anxiety or fear.

You realize they are not yours
to keep or lose.

You don’t create fear.
It spontaneously arises in awareness.
By identifying with it
you unconsciously attach it to your self-concept.
You start thinking:
“I am afraid of _____.”
Or “I really hope ______ doesn’t happen.”
It literally starts to motivate you
and drive your actions.

When you notice that fear is present
without claiming it as your own,
there is a space created
in which you are dwelling
in your natural state of non-attachment,
or awareness without attachment.

At first this glimpse
may feel like a sliver of a moment,
because of the conditioned beliefs in your personality.

With conscious practice,
non-attachment reveals your home base
as the opening or awareness in which
thoughts and emotions (like fear) come and go.
Personality is seen as the constriction
that grabs things
and makes a placeholder self out of them.

You exist just fine, thank you,
the whole time
the ever-occurring birth and death process
of thoughts and feelings appear to you.

03/11/2026

Today’s Noticing

I’m thrilled if a specific situation
unfolds
along the amazing potential I see for it today.

I’m equally thrilled if this specific situation
does not unfold
along the amazing potential I see for it today.

The bottom line:
I’m thrilled to align with whatever
the Sweet Universe unfolds
for and through me.

03/10/2026

The Heart’s Calling

The heart has no borders
that the mind has not made up.

Let your authentic heart compassionately
melt your frozen stories
and live in an affectional consciousness
of divine sweetness.

This is where we are called to abide.
This is where humanity needs us.
This is our moment.
Please don’t wait.

03/09/2026

The biggest favor
you can do
for any of us
is to get out
of your own way.

03/08/2026

The Journey Home

As an infant we (of course) developed
an instinctive sense that we are a separate self:
separate from our parents, others,
and our Source.

This apparent loss of our oneness with all Being
brought about the most devastating pain
we had ever experienced.
This was so catastrophic,
that to survive, we pushed it away
and buried it in our unconscious.

As adults, to consciously regain
the presence and depth of our oneness,
we must be willing to identify and go into
our darkest fears that are blocking
the experience of one infinite Self or Being.

The resistance to this is the ego’s attempt
to save itself since it does not know
of this transcendent, all-encompassing Reality.
Heeding the resistance keeps you locked
in an imaginary world of separation,
void of Unity.

Trusting enough to open to the fears
lets Grace transmute them
back into their nothingness,
and leaves you in the presence of Love.

Avoiding this path
augments your suffering
and delays your journey home.

03/07/2026

Experiencing Aliveness

I used to depend
on what I knew about God
to keep me safe and secure.

This was a conceptual trap
of a spiritualized ego
that thought it was winning
a subjective battle of good over evil.

Now, the only thing
I know for sure
is that I don’t know
anything for sure.

This keeps me
peacefully off balance enough
to lean into
experiencing the unknown Now
as it reveals Itself each moment.

This feels more dynamically alive
because I am out of my mind,
and relying on my Soul.

03/06/2026

Why wait any longer?

If you are not willing
to run at your fears,
they will continue
to follow you,
weigh you down,
and infiltrate your health and peace,
until you do.

03/05/2026

Why Dwelling as Awareness Matters

To the degree you abide
in non-judgmental loving awareness,
you will perceive what appears
without needing it to be different,
or for you to control or manipulate it.
You will not be holding stories
which would color your perceptions.

This pure consciousness
makes you available
to the highest potential you can access
at the moment.

It allows you to lean into the Unknown
and respond as guided by unobstructed Grace.

What more could anyone ask
than to be in the presence
of one guided by Love?

03/04/2026

Courageous Authenticity

Ever notice how often
anxiety arises from
the storied dissonance you have created
between meeting your own needs
and meeting the needs of others?

This conflict is not a given.

It could be coming from your lack
of courageous authenticity.

Instead of dwelling
in passive-aggressive resentment,
often, we have not genuinely asked others
(and really listened to)
what their needs are in our relationship,
AND explained our needs to them.

We may have made up stories
about how they are acting,
or about how selfish it is for us to explain
what is coming up for us.

My experience is that
when I listen to and understand their truth,
and honestly explain mine,
it does not always mean we have agreement,
but it opens a space
for mutual understanding, compassion,
and a new order to emerge.

Courageous authenticity is much healthier
than dramatic standoffs.

03/03/2026

Your Unshakable Integrity

If something has integrity,
it is whole and complete.
It is grounded in unshakable substance.
A bridge that has integrity
you feel good about crossing.

When you feel that your ground is shaking
because of a difficult experience,
right there, in that moment of constriction, pause.

See if you can identify yourself
as the Timeless Opening
that the emotion is occurring within,
instead of the emotion itself.
“I’m noticing that this experience feels very challenging.”

Things don’t ultimately happen to you.
They happen through you,
but they don’t change you.

You are the changeless, open awareness
that experiences various thoughts, feelings and actions
without losing your identity
as the unshakable integrity of Life.

03/02/2026

Educare Silent Meditation Retreats

Have you been yearning to go deeper in what matters most in your life? Would a “container” be helpful so you could commit to a structure to put first things first for two days?

You are invited to join me for 48 hours of Silent Meditation. Each of us will do this in the location we choose. You can pick any of the Saturday—Sunday dates.

Date
March 7—8
March 28—29
April 18—19
May 9—10
The retreat begins when you arise on Saturday. It ends when you arise on Monday. We will be in silence for 48 hours. We will be 100% off the grid.

Meditation Schedule
8:00—8:30 or 8:45 a.m.
10:00—10:30 or 10:45
Lunch Break
1:00—1:30 or 1:45 p.m.
3:00—3:30 or 3:45
5:00—5:30 or 5:45
Dinner Break
7:45—8:15 or 8:30
Between meditation periods we will adhere to the following guidelines.

What is acceptable:
Journaling
Walks in nature
Yoga
Exercise
Eating or fasting
Napping
Reviewing Guided Meditations provided by Sandy Wilder

What is not acceptable:
No interpersonal communication
No speaking
No phone or zoom calls
No online communication
No audio listening
No video watching

The invitation is to do the meditations at the listed time in your time zone. You are encouraged to do all of them. If you feel inspired to skip one or more, that is your choice.

You can also create your own schedule, determine your meditation length, and decide what activities are best for you.

Sessions with Sandy Wilder
Prior to the retreat we will have an individual call to clarify your intention and answer any questions.
Within one week after the retreat, we will have an optional individual call to debrief the experience.

Silent Mediation Retreat Fee
Discounted Sliding Scale: $325--$250

Love to have you join me
I will be meditating at these times no matter how many people sign up. Humankind needs us to be accessing our deepest capacities at this time.

Any questions, please ask.

Registration
https://educareunlearning.com/retreats/

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Grafton, IL
62037

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