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12/20/2025

Transcending Personality Patterns

When you understand that your personality
displays impersonal patterns
shared by countless millions
and it not something unique to you,
you begin to realize that there is
nothing personally wrong with you.

You are not deficient or defective
no matter what you have done.

You may feel caught in a way
of thinking and acting that is restrictive.
This is a program running in your mind.
You did not create the program
and it is not permanent.

We all have personality programs,
and the opportunity is
to become aware of how the mechanisms work
so we can depersonalize it
and choose to not let it drive us.

By consciously pausing
and opening to Presence
when disturbing patterns arise,
we begin to transcend them.

12/19/2025

This Moment’s Deepest Yearning

Can you open to a single statement
that summarizes
your deepest yearning in your heart
in the moment you are reading this?

Here’s mine:

I live by loving
in a way that transmutes
egoic identifications and patterns.

Living your deepest yearning
can be an all-embracing lens
for every aspect of your life.

How about listening for your
deepest yearning right now?
Your soul is ready to gift it to you.

It will evolve as you evolve,
so go more for the feeling
than the exact right words.

Enjoy listening it forward
and receiving the blessing.

12/18/2025

The Flow of Alignment

As our ego develops as children,
most of us adopt
a conditioned, dualistic view of reality,
handed to us by our parents, school and society.
This sets us thinking in of poles
good and evil, right and wrong, pain and pleasure, etc.

It isn’t until we make a deep devotion
to spiritual growth
that we adopt a non-dual perspective:
one which believes there is one Source
and one infinite creation which includes
all ever-evolving forms
of the manifest and unmanifest Universe.

The dualistic perspective was there
to help us survive on earth
while we were maturing.

It’s like training wheels
helped you learn how to ride a bike.
At some point you get to set aside
the dualistic training wheels
when a new faculty of balance
on one wheel (or two wheels aligned as one)
comes online.

The one-wheel alignment was there the whole time,
but it didn’t quite “feel right” yet.
With this new alignment
you are still in the same world as before,
but you no longer need
to rely on outgrown dualistic strategies.
You experience the flow of Alignment.

If you try to get a conceptual understanding
of this it won’t work.
It has to be experiential:
both in bike-riding and awakening to Oneness.

And, the more you are in balance,
flowing with the one-wheel alignment,
the more you feel motivated
to serve others to find their balance:
not because they are broken,
but because this is what
our hearts and souls are designed to do.

12/17/2025

Uncork Yourself

When one of our sons was about 2 1/2
if he did not want to eat what we put in front of him,
in his highchair he would look away from us
so that in his mind we would disappear,
and he would not have to eat it.
This is how he was hoping to find freedom.

Lessons I am still learning from my highchair:

Just because you cannot see something
doesn’t mean it is not present.

Just because you do not hear something
doesn’t mean it is not speaking to you.

Just because you do not believe in something
does not mean that it does not exist.

Just because you do not understand something
does not mean it is incomprehensible.

Just because you can’t feel something
does not mean it is not resonating.

All this means is the perceptive faculties
we are using have conditioned filters
and we have not refined our senses
to take in more subtle messages.

These so-called “hidden” aspects of reality
are resonating at a frequency
to which we are not currently tuned in.
They are available to the still mind,
humble heart, and soul.

This is not a question of capability.
You have the potential
to see, hear and access more than you do.
But, you may be cutting yourself off
because of your conscious and unconscious beliefs
about what is possible.

Uncork your senses
and see what happens
when you tap into limitless Life!

12/16/2025

Grounding Yourself: Priority Number One

Once you have felt what it is like
to be centered or grounded
in something bigger than your fluctuating feelings,
you know when you are not there.

If a challenging issue comes up,
before you get lost in trying to
figure it out, make a decision,
or emotionally react to it,
ask yourself: “Am I tangibly grounded in Grace?
Am I consciously letting Presence guide me?”

If not, then make grounding your top priority,
not the issue.
And, it is absolutely not the time
to make the issue about another person,
no matter what they have done.

One great way to determine
if you should take on yet another project or event,
is to discern if it is going to eat into
the time you have set aside
(or want to set aside)
for grounding yourself in Truth.
If so, then it will likely deplete
your clarity, how naturally you access your flow,
and how you show up in all your relationships.
That is quite a price to pay.

When grounding yourself
is priority number one,
everything is kept
in a balanced perspective.

12/15/2025

Educare Silent Meditation Retreats

Have you been yearning to go deeper in what matters most in your life? Would a “container” be helpful so you could commit to a structure to put first things first for two days?

You are invited to join me for 48 hours of Silent Meditation. Each of us will do this in the location we choose. There are also four meditation spaces available at Educare in Grafton, IL/St. Louis. You can pick any of the Saturday—Sunday dates.

December 20—21, 2025
January 10—11, 2026
January 31—February 1, 2026

The silent retreat begins when you arise on Saturday. It ends when you arise on Monday. We will be 100% off the grid.

Meditation Schedule
8:00—8:30 or 8:45 a.m.
10:00—10:30 or 10:45
Lunch Break
1:00—1:30 or 1:45 p.m.
3:00—3:30 or 3:45
5:00—5:30 or 5:45
Dinner Break
7:45—8:15 or 8:30

Between meditation periods we will adhere to the following guidelines.

What is acceptable:
Journaling
Walks in nature
Yoga
Exercise
Eating or fasting
Napping
Reviewing 8 Guided Meditations provided by Sandy Wilder

What is not acceptable:
No interpersonal communication
No phone calls
No online communication
No reading
No audio listening
No video watching

Sessions with Sandy
Prior to the retreat we will have an individual call to clarify your intention and answer any questions.

If you would like to join me at Educare in Grafton, IL, I have a condominium on the confluence of the Mississippi and Illinois Rivers. This is bald eagle season, and the river views are always stunning. Great walking along the river, as well.
You would need to find local accommodations, which are plentiful this time of year.

Silent Mediation Retreat Fee (Independent of location)
Discounted Sliding Scale: $325--$250

Love to have you join me
I will be meditating at these times no matter how many people sign up. Humankind needs us to be accessing our deepest capacities at this time.

Any questions, please ask.

Learn more and register here:
https://educareunlearning.com/retreats/

12/15/2025

Who Me? Addicted?

If you are not aware of your addictions,
look at anywhere in your life
where you feel stuck:
where you would like to change
but keep making the same old choices,
which includes procrastination.

These are places where you may be addicted
to some way of reacting or responding.
That which is motivating your behavior
is most likely unconscious,
otherwise, you would have changed it.

Unlearning involves moving
from unconscious addiction
to conscious devotion.

A deep, wholehearted, demonstrable devotion
to your and humankind’s awakening
will begin to reveal your addictions,
and provide the motivation
to gradually accept, feel,
release and transcend them.

Prepare for the dawn
of increased freedom, dominion,
wisdom, and compassion.

12/14/2025

Being With Another

Prepare for a different way
of being with another.

If you ask me to spend time with you
and we go on a drive,
I get in the passenger’s seat
and let you drive the car.

As we move along
I don’t tell you when we should turn
or reach over and grab the wheel,
since the destination is unknown to me.
I’m not trying to influence you.
My only intention is to be with you.

As you point out the scenery,
I may let you know
that I get your perspective,
and share what I am seeing,
but I have no desire to convince you
that my view is better
or more inspired than yours.
That would disrupt our being together.

I may ask you questions
about what you are seeing,
to better understand your view
and how you are feeling about it.

I may sense that some places
are especially meaningful to you
and I will acknowledge that I’m hearing that.
But, I have no agenda
that I am trying to get you to accept.

You asked me
to go on a drive with you
and I am trusting
your Inner Guidance System.

What if you used this model
when listening to another
who asked for support?

Prepare for a different way
of being with another.
It could be a ride they will never forget.

12/13/2025

Judgment Billboards

Every time you judge another
you unconsciously erect
a billboard to the world that says:

“I am feeling worthless right now,
so I am going to do something to feel better.
I am going to put someone down
so I can pretend that I am above them.
From this self-inflated superior fantasy
I avoid looking at my own insecure self-concept,
and live in a dualistic delusion
of ever-present deficiency.”

This kind of advertising
is not a profitable investment.

12/12/2025

Asking Honest Questions

When you have a question for someone,
if you already
know the answer you want to hear,
don’t ask the question.
It is not honest.
It is coming from an insecure ego.

Asking them the question will not give you
a true confirmation
of that for which you are looking,
and will likely alienate the recipient.

Whatever answer is returned
will not fulfill your wanting need.
Only you can do that.

Instead, it may be helpful to ask yourself:
Why do I need the person
to confirm my answer?
Which you get to answer honestly.

I did this years ago in a family meeting
to talk about an important issue.
I asked a dishonest question.
Our 12-year-old daughter said:
“You don’t want to know what we think.
You just want us to confirm your answer.”

She was right.

After pausing uncomfortably,
I thanked her and said.
“End of meeting.
We’ll schedule another one
when I get my act together.”

12/11/2025

Thank you for your continued appreciation and support of the Educare Unlearning Insights. My hope is that each insight leavens thought and invites you into a space of unlearning, freedom and Presence.

I’m very grateful that these moments of clarity in this form resonate with hundreds of you throughout the world on five continents. When you respond to an Insight, it comes directly to me, so I do read and appreciate your feedback.

I continue to deeply enjoy sitting in stillness each day, and listening for what the Divine/Universe has for me to share with you. I have done this every day for sixteen years.

While this is a free service to you, it costs Educare thousands of dollars per year in technology fees to publish this via email, Instagram, and Facebook. If you would enjoy offsetting some of those fees, we would love having you as part of our family.

No amount is too big or small. This is not tax-deductible. You can donate via Venmo, PayPal, AppleCash, credit card, or check. The details are at: https://educareunlearning.com/donations/

Thanks for considering joining us. We really appreciate your support!

Deep and peaceful holiday blessings,

Sandy Wilder
Chief Listening Officer
Educare Unlearning Institute

12/11/2025

Purpose Reveals Order

When your deepest intention
for your life is not in focus,
everything and everyone
feel like random occurrences
as your mind tries
to compartmentalize, make sense of,
and control
a seemingly chaotic world.

When your deepest intention
for your life is clear,
everything and everyone
participates in your conscious curriculum
and the fulfillment of your purpose.

It becomes the lens
through which you process life:
discovering and unlearning
as directed by Grace;
you see, experience and celebrate
the divine order.

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