12/18/2025
🌻In-Law Abuse Is Very Real🌻
In-law abuse is very real, and one of the most painful forms of it happens when a family questions the legitimacy of a child.
This is what happened to me after my youngest was born 19 years ago.
There are few wounds deeper than being told directly, that a beautiful newborn baby, created by two committed human beings, somehow “belongs to another man.”Because he looked like your other child.
What makes this kind of harm so lasting isn’t only the words themselves. The fact that we wanted to have this child even though we knew we hadnt been together very long. We fell in love the night we met.
It’s what followed that created such an ugly cloud and shifted me into a depression that just kept getting darker.
💫There wee no apologies.
💫No one stepping in saying this is uncalled for behavior
💫This family was laughing while I was mortified
💫No one pausing to see the pain it caused a mother, a marriage, or a child’s sense of belonging due to the shift in happiness.
🌻Fighting became the message then silence
And silence, over time, teaches a woman that her pain is inconvenient and that keeping the peace matters more than protecting her.
🦉Here is the lesson I’ve come to understand:
🌻When harm is minimized, the wound doesn’t heal it embeds.
☀️Many women are not “holding onto the past.”
🌻They are carrying what was never acknowledged.
🌻Healing, in these situations, doesn’t come from forcing forgiveness or pretending it didn’t matter.
🌻It comes from reclaiming self-trust, naming the truth, and refusing to abandon ourselves again just to stay accepted.🌻
If you’ve ever been made to feel like you didn’t have the right to hurt especially in a family system you are not weak, dramatic, or wrong.
You surely NEVER deserved to be spoken down to like that for NOTHING!
🌻Your pain is valid.
🌻Your memory is real.
🌻And your healing does not require permission.
🌻You telling YOUR story is YOUR right! 🌻
And YOUR right to HEAL!
🌻Healing is Empowering 🌻
🌻Sometimes the lesson isn’t about changing them.
🌻It’s about learning where we were asked to disappear and choosing ourselves instead.
❤️I am a mother in law and I have treated my son’s girlfriend with poor judgement and I have loved on her and apologized for my actions because that is what you do when you hurt someone.