Secure Couples

Secure Couples We utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, an evidence-based approach is designed to help couples form more secure attachments together.

Everyone: Meet Wilson (aka Will…and I will now sing the Little W***y song for the rest of his life 😂)!! He’s Wilson cuz ...
12/07/2025

Everyone: Meet Wilson (aka Will…and I will now sing the Little W***y song for the rest of his life 😂)!!

He’s Wilson cuz his rescue name was Will (which he already knows) and is the color of a football 😍

We adopted this sweet boy from yesterday. He’s a 9ish month old herding mix, super smart, and aims to please. He’s shy at first (my wife had a big scary coat on when they met, so he’s still not sure about her 😬) but already BFFs with me!

He’s great with Fromm (gives him his space) and ignores ALL of Bella’s barking at him for being in her house (I suspect they’ll be buds once she chills out 😎).

Oh, and did I mention FETCH ALL DAY with this boy?! 🎾🎾🎾 But he’s got a great off switch and will clearly be my new Football Sunday snuggler 🥰

We’re so honored he’s letting us give him a chance at finding a safe home where he will be spoiled ❤️

Oh, Skeddy. We’re so sad to see you cross the rainbow bridge, but we love you enough to let you go out well ❤️🌈We learne...
12/07/2025

Oh, Skeddy. We’re so sad to see you cross the rainbow bridge, but we love you enough to let you go out well ❤️🌈

We learned on November 19 that he had an inoperable tumor in his lungs and was declining fast. The next 2 days were filled with snuggles, a few treats (he lost his appetite), the best walk he’s ever had, and so much love.

We didn’t expect to lose him so soon (his 7-year gotcha day is on Monday, and he’s 8.5yo), but it’s never long enough anyway.

Say hi to Molz for us, Sked. I think she’ll like this version of you. Love you dearly, sweet, quirky, complex Skeddy ❤️💔🌈

Our first Relationship Retreat for Service Member and Veteran couples in Grand Forks was an absolute SUCCESS!It's a powe...
11/25/2025

Our first Relationship Retreat for Service Member and Veteran couples in Grand Forks was an absolute SUCCESS!

It's a powerful thing when you can not only help couples work to strengthen their relationship but help individuals have a deeper understanding of themselves and help them create community with others. A few things that stood out for us:

💙 People were speaking with each other (across couples) about ways they could connect and support each other outside of the retreat

💙 One person said the retreat "wasn't their kind of thing but found it helpful"

💙 Couples were talking about tough and important things that mattered to them

💙 One couple even described the retreat as "life changing"!!

Registration for our next retreat in Grand Forks (June 12-14, 2026) is now open. Our Minot dates are tentatively April 17-19, 2026, and registration will open once details are finalized.

Visit the link in our bio or www.grandforkstherapy.com/hmt to register or get on our email list to know when registration for our retreats open!

This effort is associated with North Dakota’s State Su***de Prevention Program, funded by the North Dakota Department of Health and Human Services (HHS), Behavioral Health Division (BHD). We use the Hold Me Tight® program.

09/15/2025

Video 11-Katya & Davey describe their own EFT and HMT experience

In this powerful video, Katya and her partner Davey discuss their own experience with Hold Me Tight® and couples therapy.

Join our Hold Me Tight® email list for relationship & retreat information!

👉 https://mailchi.mp/ed6f87bcc4ff/hmt

09/09/2025

Video 10-Intimacy and Touch

Touch is powerful. It can say “I’m here,” “I want you,” or “We’re in this together” without a single word. 🤲

In this video, Katya talks about how we address this within safe and secure relationships.

At Hold Me Tight® retreats, we help couples reconnect emotionally so touch feels safe, exciting, and deeply bonding again.

📅 Ready to reconnect?

Join our Hold Me Tight® email list for relationship & retreat information!

👉 https://mailchi.mp/ed6f87bcc4ff/hmt

09/05/2025

Video 09-Healing Past Hurt

Past hurts can leave scars that show up in the present, through distance, defensiveness, or painful arguments. 💔

In this video, Dave talks about how there are frequently "past hurts" in relationships and how we work to heal past hurts in Hold Me Tight® retreats.

In Hold Me Tight® retreats, couples learn how to revisit those injuries safely, so instead of staying stuck in pain, they can move toward healing and forgiveness.

Because true forgiveness isn’t about forgetting. It’s about knowing your hurt matters, and finding closeness again on the other side. ❤️

📅 Ready to reconnect?

SAVE $60 if you register before September 12, 2025!

Join us at our next Hold Me Tight® retreat (September 26-28, 2025) and discover what’s possible when love feels safe, strong, and secure.

👉 https://courses.haugenperformance.com/p/hmt2-2025

09/02/2025

Video 8-Open & Responsive

💬 “Are you there for me?”
❤️ “Yes, I’m here.”

That’s what being open and responsive is all about, and it’s one of the keys to connection we practice at Hold Me Tight® retreats.

Katya discusses how we will help partners be open and responsive to each other while also dealing with the "yikes on bikes" that comes along with it.

📅 Ready to reconnect?

SAVE $60 if you register before September 12, 2025!

Join us at our next Hold Me Tight® retreat (September 26-28, 2025) and discover what’s possible when love feels safe, strong, and secure.

👉 https://courses.haugenperformance.com/p/hmt2-2025

08/29/2025

Video 07-HMT and CAKE

That fight wasn’t about the dishes. 🍽️

It was about wanting to feel seen and loved.

At Hold Me Tight®, couples revisit rocky moments to discover the deeper story—and write a new ending together. ❤️

In this video, Dave talks about his recommendation that couples have a lot of CAKE. Learn more about what that is and how that can help relationships.

💬 Join us for our next Hold Me Tight® retreat and discover a new way forward.

September 26-28, 2025
https://courses.haugenperformance.com/p/hmt2-2025

08/26/2025

Video 6-Dave talks about raw spots

🔥 Ever notice how a small comment can spark a big reaction?

That’s what EFT calls a raw spot, a tender place shaped by past hurts or unmet needs.

When your partner brushes against that spot (even accidentally), the pain can feel overwhelming, leading to shutdowns, blowups, or distance.

At our Hold Me Tight® retreats, couples learn how to recognize each other’s raw spots, respond with care, and turn painful moments into opportunities for connection.

❤️ Because when your partner knows how to hold your raw spots gently, healing begins.

📅 Join us at our next retreat to start that journey together.

September 26-28, 2025
https://courses.haugenperformance.com/p/hmt2-2025

08/18/2025

Video 4-Dave & Erin's HMT experience

Not sure your partner will be on board?

✅ It’s common for one person to feel a little hesitant about attending a Hold Me Tight® retreat. But here’s the thing, these weekends aren’t about blame, “fixing” anyone, or rehashing old arguments.

❤️ They’re about learning how to really hear each other, understand what’s underneath the distance or conflict, and create the kind of closeness you both want. Many reluctant partners leave saying, “I wish we’d done this sooner."

🗣️ In this video, Dave discusses his own Hold Me Tight® experience with his wife, Erin (who was absolutely reluctant to attend). Hear about what happened and the impact it had for them.

💬 Curious but cautious? That’s normal. Take the first step together. You don't want to miss this transformational weekend!

📅 September 26-28, 2025 in Grand Forks, ND

https://courses.haugenperformance.com/p/hmt2-2025

08/14/2025

Video 3: The New Science of Love

“I don’t know how to reach them anymore.” 🤷🤷‍♂️🤷‍♀️
You’ve tried talking. You’ve tried avoiding. You’ve tried pretending it’s fine. But the distance keeps growing, and the closeness you once had feels out of reach.

You don’t have to navigate this alone. We help couples and loved ones rediscover the safety, trust, and warmth they’ve been missing. ❤️

Dave describes what will be discussed in the first HMT Module of the retreat weekend.

He outlines the relationship between love, attachment, and the importance of the acronym ARE in relationships.

You don't want to miss this transformational weekend!

September 26-28, 2025 in Grand Forks, ND.

https://courses.haugenperformance.com/p/hmt2-2025

08/11/2025

What is Hold Me Tight®?

“We don’t talk like we used to.” 🙁
It starts small—a little less laughter, a little more distance. The arguments last longer. The silence feels heavier. You wonder if this is just how it’s going to be now.

It doesn’t have to be. ❤️
We help couples and loved ones find their way back—through honest conversations, deeper understanding, and the kind of closeness that feels safe again.

In this video, Dave describes Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and how that's used in the Hold Me Tight® couples retreat. He also describes what couples can expect during the retreat weekend.

You don't want to miss this transformational weekend!

September 26-28, 2025 in Grand Forks, ND.

https://courses.haugenperformance.com/p/hmt2-2025

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