Shari L Schnuelle PC, Professional Counseling Services

04/09/2026

04/09/2026

https://open.substack.com/pub/neurodivergentgeekgirl/p/why-neurodivergent-people-often-feel?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=em

A lot of neurodivergent adults feel the same way - like life started later than their peers.

04/09/2026

Nobody who loves you wants you to take care of them in ways that sacrifice your stability & safety.

Part of you loving them & respecting their love for you is taking care of your own safety, stability, & needs.

04/09/2026

My summer writing immersion begins May 17th. 8 weeks. 16 classes. We are a third of the way full

Link in comments 🌸

04/09/2026

04/09/2026

Sometimes people think that wanting change means something is wrong.

Like if you appreciate your life, you should be completely satisfied with it.

But growth does not usually work that way.

You can be grateful for where you are and still feel a quiet pull toward something more.

A different pace.
A new direction.
A version of life that feels a little more aligned with who you are becoming.

Wanting that does not mean you are ungrateful.

It often means you are paying attention to what is evolving inside you.

04/09/2026

https://medium.com/invisible-illness/neuroscience-provides-new-psychiatric-biomarkers-f36734556335?sk=v2%2F3b7383b9-146f-4a3d-a197-2910d400ddb7

Biology reveals three kinds of ADHD — just not the types we thought.

04/08/2026

https://medium.com/heart-affairs/what-does-it-feel-like-when-youve-been-moved-to-the-bottom-of-the-priorities-list-aae362436e5d?sk=v2%2F19a7baec-8f18-4d07-9987-95decd4da4e6

A quiet story about reordered priorities.

04/08/2026

https://medium.com/.tepfenhart/why-did-the-tradwife-bubble-collapse-so-fast-bc8d4652b85c?sk=v2%2F8ffd82ff-790b-4e85-bde0-b3f8ade1444c

As it turns out, civil rights were worth fighting for after all.

04/08/2026

https://medium.com/bitchy/the-men-who-complain-about-independent-women-built-them-9ee1f0663813?sk=v2%2F15a889eb-4e27-41c9-bdcc-09fd3ebf3154

Different men. Same outcome

04/08/2026

Some children did not become quiet because that was their personality.

They became quiet because it felt safer.

In some homes, being seen meant being criticized.
Being expressive meant being shut down.
Having needs meant being ignored, mocked, or treated like a problem.

So the child adapts.

They speak less.
They hide more.
They keep their feelings to themselves.
They learn how not to take up too much space.

From the outside, this may look like independence, maturity, or being "easy."

But often, it is a survival response.

It is a child learning that visibility comes with risk.

And those patterns can follow people into adulthood.

They may struggle to express their needs.
They may feel uncomfortable being fully seen.
They may minimize their pain, avoid vulnerability, or disappear inside relationships.

Not because they have nothing to say.
Not because they do not want connection.

But because a part of them learned very early that being noticed did not always feel safe.

Healing begins when people understand that silence was not always their nature.
Sometimes it was protection.

And slowly, they can begin to reclaim their voice, their needs, and the space they were always allowed to take. —