12/15/2025
What does healthy look like?
In this collage of photos, I am sharing some of the journey that I have walked in my life.��In my decades of being alive, I have fought to achieve what “healthy” was. Starting on the left, you will see a “cardio queen” who also did Tough Mudders to prove how tough and strong I was. To bodybuilding and being, for the first time in my life, the “recommended weight for my height and age”, to where I am now…
Living with a positive relationship with food, finding what activities I love to do, and giving continuing to live the lessons that are continuously opening up to me.
What I am not doing is focusing on achieving a certain number on the scale, of fighting to be a specific size, or looking a specific way. In every single one of these photos, this was truly the deep motivation, though I would never tell you that. And every single time, I fell off the wagon, I jumped onto another diet or eating regimen, it was never for the betterment of my health. It was because a deeper part of me never thought she was enough, that she was worth it unless she looked a certain way or was a certain size.
Let me tell you what I have learned in my journey…
This is what the health, wellness, and fitness industrial complex plays on. They play on your fear, your insecurities and desires to be someone you are not. Because over the decades we, as a society, have allowed this complex to tell us what healthy looks like. What is trending, what is not. What is going to help you achieve the body you want in 30 days rather than what makes you feel good.�
This is why you find yourself constantly stuck in a loop of health trends, searching for reasons why you are the way you are, and continually focused on achieving goals that do not make you happy and/or with goal posts that are easily moved because your goals don’t actually fill you up.
The health, wellness and fitness complex “sets the standards” of what healthy looks like. And if you do not line up with it, there is a trend to counter it (i.e. body positivity). Both have good intentions, but both staunchly miss the mark on addressing the deeper problem.
There is not a one-size-fits-all program to helping a majority of people feel better in their body and to truly healing the body from the inside out. It takes time, it takes patience, and it takes having deeper, harder, and uncomfortable conversations.
Now after you read that, notice what your reaction was?
Your reaction tells you where you are at presently. ��
Now the second question...is that where you want to be?
If yes, OK…it is where you are at right now and that is ok.
If no, but you are not sure if you are ready, reach out. Maybe, just maybe, this is your invitation to see what is possible. Unless you ask questions and have a conversation, you will continue in your loop. And is your health worth it?
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