11/07/2025
Friendly Reminder:
This is not the first time I have shared this quote. And it won't be the last.
In a world where we are tip-toeing around each others feelings, where we have been taught that you shouldn't hurt anyone, where we have fostered an environment of fear of judgement, fear of cancellation, fear of anything and everyone because the "whole world is watching", we have created an absolute mess.
Amanda's 1st Perspective of the World:
The world we have created is K!lling our mental health. We are self-monitoring, self-editing, self-cancelling to the point that even though we may say we are being our true authentic self, we are likely far from it. We are acting the part. We are playing the role. We are walking on eggshells to come off as (insert the adjective that feels good). Because we are self-monitoring for other people's "comfort and health" we are minimizing who we are, our thoughts, our feelings, etc.
Amanda's 2nd Perspective of the World:
People who judge without truly knowing who someone is, that is a reflection of them. Let's be real, we live in a world that has the attention span of a gold fish (for those who don't know, that is about 8-seconds). If someone THINKs they know another after 8-seconds, they aren't a person who are currently able to see depth and context of the world around them. And that is just where they are at right now...doesn't mean we all have to be there.
Amanda's 3rd Perspective of the World:
We cannot control other people, their lives, their thoughts, etc. This is the hardest one because most of us do it because we want to help others, we want to see less suffering in the world, we want others to be happy, etc. (and I will say I feel this one too...It is hard to see hurt around you and to not "help" is hard!). But everyone is going to make their own choices.
Let's call some things out. If we truly cared about each other, if we were truly in this together, we would respect and honor the individuality of those around us and be a true "humanist" (i.e. someone who sees each individual as a human first and foremost, not their roles, their identities, their traits, etc.). We can support one another by walking along side each other when it is ASKED for and share our wisdom and experience WHEN ASKED for. Outside of this, we cannot force ourselves on one another or force change in someone's life because we THINK it's right. The changes won't be permanent because they weren't meant for the person/people we are trying to help...they were meant for those of us forcing the change.
Putting this in context with this quote, the people who matter are the people who truly do not mind who you are. They see and hear, or want to see and hear, your human before anything else. They want to know your experience, your perspective, they will ask questions to further learn more or even challenge your perspective (not to change, but to present another point of view). They may not agree with everything you say, but they will respect the conversation and who you are. The people who judge on the exterior, superficial traits, yeah...they "don't matter". They don't matter because they are not ready for depth, to understand the complexity of the human in front of them, or the differences that may exist. I personally hope that this is a temporary state but we won't know until a shift happens. And until the shift takes place, they don't deserve your time, your energy or your resources because they aren't yet ready to see or hear YOU.
It can be a challenge to be yourself, truly and deeply. I am also included in this group...it is something that I am continuously working on everyday (And this post is a big a one...this is full Amanda). But you know what, the people that I have met over the past few years who truly see me for who I am, they are the best freaking humans I could ever ask for. And for that awareness alone, I will keep trucking through the hard.
I hope you do as well💜