02/20/2026
Suffering isn’t created by thoughts.
It’s amplified by unresolved nervous system responses.
What hurts most isn’t usually the event itself —
it’s the prolonged stress response that stays active long after the event has passed.
Rumination, anticipation, and self-attack aren’t mindset failures.
They’re the body trying to predict and prevent danger based on past experience.
The problem isn’t “how you think.”
The problem is that your system learned to stay braced.
When regulation returns, perspective changes automatically.
Not because you reframed the problem —
but because the body stopped preparing for impact that never came.