01/22/2026
Dear friends.
As life has moved forward and people/ things have changed, these past years have brought many great understandings.
A major one is this:
If you hear something about me.
Believe it.... if doing so, is what makes your patterns (relationships/ how you handle life) easier to do.
*In that, I could say "it says more about you than it does me", but I feel it would be bypassing ones wounds and pain. In itself, being a trauma response.
But, if we are to address the elephant in the room it would be to point blank say that the bypassing statement above is of truth. That your judgment of me, shows the world all about you.
But does it really?
Or does it just show a pattern learned? And does a pattern declare WHO you are? Or is it just a pattern?
A pattern of minding authority.
A pattern of believing someone based on hierarchy placed.
A pattern of what loyalty means to you.
A pattern of fitting in.
A pattern of not wanting to be on the outside of something one considers important.
A pattern of people pleasing.
A pattern of being the pushover.
A pattern of having to do the "right" thing for the "right" crowd.
A pattern of insecurity.
A pattern of self sabotage.
A pattern of not wanting to be disliked.
A pattern of not wanting to lose friends.
A pattern of having to have a scapegoat in your life.
A pattern of pointing fingers.
*In that not having to take accountability.
A pattern of not communicating and just assuming.
A pattern of saying "I don't do/ like confrontation."
A pattern of abandoning the self for approval of another.
A pattern of judgment as it's easier than self assessment.
A pattern of playing the game.
A pattern of being the most liked in a room.
This list could go on and on...
But does this mean you are a bad person? Does this show the world who you really are??
Or does this just make you a human with triggers, emotions, baggage, and beliefs about what it all means (usually many distortions)
Does this just make you a human with patterns?
A human with trauma responses, deep pain, and an act/ play one feels it must participate in to survive.
A. Human. With. Patterns.
There is a way to stop these patterns and stand in the Stillness within.
And if one day, one decide these patterns are no longer in alignment with Who one wants to be, I welcome them to the place where Connection comes first.
Where one understands that another is just showing them where their own pain is. *And the response is to dive within self to uncover it.
Where judgment is recognized as a hidden negative belief about the self. *And ones response is to rewire those beliefs.
Where understanding that self righteousness is ego, and a masking of truth. *And the response is to discover ones actual truths within.
Where one identifies that gossip and negative talk of another, is only an escape from those deep negative feelings and emotions about self. *And ones responds by doing the work of defining and redefining who one is. Addressing the pain.
***A lot of self hate is buried and projected upon another and gossip is the perfect way to do it.
I welcome each of you to the path of healing.
The path of recognition.
The path of understanding ones definitions.
The path of self discovery.
The path of self awareness.
The path of standing strong within... not depending on anything without.
I have so much love for you!
Jessica 🌿 💜
