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My mission is to inspire, motivate, uplift, and empower individuals � Here’s to healing! LCMHC| Proverbs 31:25-26

02/18/2026

How many of you have a scar?
From childhood, as a teenager, or even as an adult?

Scars are healed wounds…
that were once nasty, bleeding, and painful.

A scar is proof that something tried to break you…
and didn’t.

It’s a reminder of what you survived.
A reminder of what you overcame.
But it doesn’t pull you back into the moment…
it simply shows you that you made it out.

So when you look at your scar, remind yourself:
you once survived something brutal.
Something that hurt you deeply.
Something you didn’t know you’d recover from.

You didn’t know how long it would take to heal…
but you kept tending to it.
You kept going.
And eventually… it healed.

And I don’t know how long it will take for your current hurt to heal…

But it will.

Because you’ve done it before. 💚

02/17/2026

I’ve been thinking about how easy it is to feed our own negative thoughts without even realizing it.

When we’re going through heartache and feeling hurt, we start searching for posts, quotes, and videos that match what we’re feeling… almost like we’re trying to convince ourselves we have a reason to stay sad.

But sometimes we’re not healing… we’re just replaying the pain.

I had to clean up my newsfeed for this exact reason. I realized certain posts weren’t helping me grow, they were keeping me stuck.

Same with music… when I’m already feeling low, sad songs don’t always help. They just make the hurt feel heavier.

I’m learning that what you focus on really does intensify… and what you constantly feed will grow.

So I’m trying to be more intentional about what I allow into my mind and spirit… and choosing God, peace, and healing instead.

01/06/2026

2026 isn’t louder.
It’s clearer.

I’m choosing alignment over attachment not because it’s easy, but because I’m tired of romanticizing what disrupts my peace.

This year is about discipline where I used to rely on feelings. Consistency where I used to sprint. Rest where I used to resist.

What’s meant for me won’t require self-betrayal or nervous system burnout. If it costs my peace, it’s too expensive.

What are you choosing over something else in 2026?
Finish the sentence in the comments:
“In 2026, I choose ___ over ___.”

Say it out loud. Naming it changes everything.

12/28/2025

I’m not dragging old habits into new territory.
Not carrying people who only knew the former version of me.
Not negotiating with false hope anymore.

2026 is asking for discipline, not just desire.
Intention, not impulse.
And obedience over familiarity.

Some things had to shed.
Some people had to fall off.
Not because they were bad—but because they no longer align.

Growth isn’t loud.
It’s quiet decisions made daily.
It’s choosing alignment over attachment.
It’s finally getting out of your own way so you can receive what God already prepared.

This is a new season.
And I’m clearing space for it.

✨ What are you intentionally leaving behind in 2026?
✨ What are you making room for?

Let’s name it. Speak it. Walk toward it.

12/26/2025

Some of the traits you get praised for
being independent, low maintenance, always strong, always composed were formed in environments where you had to be.

Your nervous system learned survival before it learned safety. It learned what reduced conflict, what kept you seen, what kept you protected.Those patterns weren’t flaws. They were intelligence.

But survival skills don’t automatically expire.
They linger. And when the danger is gone, they can quietly deprive you of rest, connection, and softness.
God can provide strength for a season and invite you into rest for the next one. Provision doesn’t mean permanence.

If your coping skills are costing you intimacy, peace, or authenticity, they may not be wrong they may just be outdated.

You’re not losing discipline.
You’re gaining discernment.
You’re not becoming weaker.
You’re becoming safer.

Healing isn’t about surviving better. It’s about finally letting your body believe that safety is allowed now.

12/25/2025

Merry Christmas🩷🎄 Wishing you a season of rest, reflection, and gentle joy.

Thank you for trusting VicNikolSpeaks with your healing, your growth, and your becoming this year.

May your holidays be tender, your boundaries honored, and your hope renewed. 🩷

12/11/2025

There comes a point when repeating the same cycles stops feeling familiar and starts feeling heavy.

The habits that once kept you safe begin to feel limiting. The behaviors that protected you start costing you peace.

Growth begins the moment you say I’m no longer willing to participate in what keeps hurting me.

Choosing yourself is uncomfortable.

It aches.
It stretches you.
It asks you to walk away from patterns that feel like home but live like harm.

That is the shift when protecting your now and future matters more than clinging to your past.

Some seasons are not about fixing the cycle. They are about refusing to repeat it.

At some point, you’ll get tired and when you’re tired you’ll finally stop negotiating with what’s been draining you. You’ll choose the boundary, the shift, the exit because you’re exhausted from pretending you’re not hurting.

12/10/2025

Some things create short term peace while creating long term hunger. And we keep choosing them because they feel easy.

This is what we call a coping pattern built for survival. It soothes you fast but steals from you slowly. It tells your nervous system “you’re safe for now” while teaching your spirit to live on crumbs.

But real peace, the kind that nourishes and stays, requires honesty with yourself. It asks you to look at the habits that numb you instead of heal you. What habits you used in one season, may be hindering you from what you deserve in this season.

Looking at the habits, invites you to listen to the hunger underneath the behavior. What am I reaching for and why does it never feel like enough?

Growth is when you stop settling for temporary quiet and start feeding the parts of you that actually need care.

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11/20/2025

Live in the moment, not in the memory.💚
Because memories will trap you in chapters your spirit already walked out of.
They replay old pain like it’s still happening, pull you back into versions of yourself you’ve outgrown, and convince you that healing means staying loyal to the survival patterns that protected you back then.

But the moment is where your body actually lives.
It’s where your nervous system decides if you’re safe.

It’s where you get to breathe without bracing.
It’s where your feet learn the ground isn’t shaking anymore, even if your past taught you to expect it.

And living in the moment doesn’t mean pretending the past didn’t hurt.
It means accepting that the survival skills that held you together were necessary then, but they don’t have to run your life now.
It means refusing to let an old wound dictate today’s choices.
It means catching yourself when your mind drifts backward and saying,
“Not today. You are safe.”

Some of this work happens in real time,
and some of it happens in therapy, where you finally get the space to process the wounds you had to power through just to keep going.

In the moment, you can regulate.
In the moment, you can choose differently.
In the moment, you can unlearn the armor and build beliefs that actually bring peace.

The memory is the lesson.
The moment is your life.

Choose the place where you’re growing, not the place where you were only surviving.

11/18/2025

We’re so quick to judge somebody else’s chaos and throw out, “that could never be me.”

Life has a funny way of humbling you.
The situation could absolutely be you. Any of us could blink and end up in a chapter we never signed up for.

We dont get to choose trauma, grief, hurt or pain.

The difference is the outcome — that’s where your choices, support, healing, and faith shape a different ending.

So instead of judging, lead with compassion.
Because half the time, the only thing separating their reality from yours is one decision, one moment, or one circumstance you never saw coming. The kind that reminds you to see people with softer eyes and a steadier heart. 🩷

-VicNikolspeaks: Counseling and Wellness

10/28/2025

🌸 Reclaiming Joy: The Healing Power of Remembering What Made You Happy.

Sometimes the key to emotional regulation isn’t another adult strategy. It’s remembering the child in you who used to find joy for no reason at all.

Sometimes we have to revisit what brought us happiness during childhood and place those things back into our adult lives on purpose.

Somewhere between survival and responsibility, we forgot how to just be.

Society told us adulthood is about working, paying bills, and taking care of everyone else. But what about you? The individual beneath the roles, the expectations, the exhaustion.

That little version of you still remembers what peace felt like before the world told you to earn it.

🧩 Coping skills aren’t just for crisis.
They’re preventive medicine.
They strengthen your emotional baseline so when life hits, you’re more likely to reach for healthy coping instead of shutting down or numbing out.

For me, I’ve gotten back into:
📚 Reading books that make me dream again
🎨 Coloring just because it calms my spirit
🎮 Playing my Nintendo Switch
💖 And embracing my Hello Kitty obsession with zero shame

Healing doesn’t always have to be heavy. Sometimes it can be playful, light, and freeing.

Don’t let adulthood strip you of wonder.
Go back to what once made your heart light.
Reclaim joy as a form of resistance.
Because healing isn’t just about fixing what broke. It’s about remembering what makes you glow.

10/27/2025

You won’t find yourself in someone else’s reflection.
You find you in the mirror.
In the quiet moments.
In the honesty of your own eyes.

We get so caught up expecting people to love how we love, move how we move, give how we give.
And when they don’t, we take it personal.
We spiral. We question our worth instead of their capacity.

But sometimes the chaos isn’t coming from them.
It’s coming from us, trying to squeeze our standards into places they don’t belong.

Trying to pull reciprocity out of people who were only meant to reveal what parts of us still need healing.

At some point you have to align your behaviors with your values.

If you say you value peace, why keep revisiting situations that create confusion? If you say you want clarity, why entertain connections that keep you guessing? You can’t say you want still waters and keep swimming back to storms.

You don’t need a mirror made of people to remind you of who you are.
You just need you.
Standing in your truth.
Loving yourself the way you keep hoping they will.
That’s where peace begins.

So stop chasing reflections.
Start honoring your own.

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