TJ Rumler Consulting

11/04/2025

🧠 I’ve used this in group and family therapy *so* much lately.

Each client took turns naming the behaviors that help them feel safe with someone. For every one, we dropped a marble in the jar.

Then we talked about the flip side—what actions take marbles out?

We weren’t just talking about trust.
We were practicing self-awareness.
We were building language for boundaries and repair.
We were learning how to hold space for each other.

Try this with your group, team, or family.

11/03/2025

Billie Eilish opens up about her personal connection to mental health. Learn more about how to start a conversation about mental health with your friends at ...

11/02/2025

In group therapy or family sessions, one of the most impactful activities we’ve used is what we call the Marble Jar.

Each marble represents a behavior that builds or breaks trust—and that visual makes emotional safety feel concrete.

It’s not just a metaphor. It’s a relational mirror.

In this video, I walk you through a powerful therapy activity we use in group sessions and family work: The Marble Jar.Inspired by Brené Brown’s concept of t...

11/02/2025

Numbers from a recent study on trauma exposure among adolescents: 15.5% trauma exposure; 7.5% moderate/high stress; 10× higher suicide risk when traumatic stress is high. The good news? Trauma-focused treatments work. Please continue to check in with the kids in your life, validate emotions, create relationships that are safe for sharing, and reach out for services when you need them.

10/29/2025

We’re living in an age of therapy culture — and that’s a good thing. People are more becoming self-aware, more emotionally literate, and more open to healing than ever before.

But the unintended downside? We're seeing a swing toward lower self-accountability.

When every post says, “It’s not you, they just can’t handle you at your worst,” or reels that label every hard interaction or conflict as gaslighting or narcissism — we risk forgetting that we’re also accountable for our own behavior.

That’s not self-care.
That’s avoidance.
That’s bypassing.

True self-care involves doing what’s necessary to find balance, harmony, flow (whatever you want to call it) — so you can handle your business, show up for your people, and live in harmony with yourself and others.

What say you, friends?

10/24/2025

10/16/2025

It feels extremely good to be able to continually support my Alma mater, ! Go Trojans!

10/13/2025

Grateful for the incredible energy and engagement in our recent training with Anderson School District 5! These quotes capture just a few of the moments that sparked reflection, connection, and growth. The educators there absolutely display compassion and empathy for serving through a Trauma-Informed lens.

Anderson County School District 5

10/12/2025

Forever grateful to OnTrack Greenville and the leadership of E. J. Anderson - thanks for all you do!

10/10/2025

Not all work injuries leave scars you can see.

Some live in the body and mind—after a crisis, constant pressure, or witnessing something traumatic.

Mental health conditions like PTSD, depression, and anxiety are real workplace injuries that deserve care, compassion, and protection. Healing starts when we stop separating emotional pain from physical pain—and start treating both as human pain.

Read this important piece on why recognizing trauma at work matters more than ever.

💜 We heal together.

Workplace injuries don’t always leave visible scars. For many employees, the most lasting damage comes from what can’t be seen—emotional trauma, chronic stress, and psychological pain that follow a serious accident or high-pressure environment. While broken bones and burns are easily identifie...

10/04/2025

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, scared…what helps your body feel safe?

When a child’s body goes into fight, flight, or freeze, it’s not “bad behavior” — it’s biology.

If we want them to regulate, we can’t just tell them to “calm down.” We have to show them their body has options.

That their heart rate can slow.
That their muscles can soften.
That safety is possible again. Possible now.