11/24/2025
Our culture normalizes appearance based comments. People often think they are harmless and even “positive.” Someone may even believe they like receiving these comments because they’ve been conditioned to think so. The reason these comments aren’t positive or neutral is they reinforce that someone’s value is based on how they look. They also could be reinforcing someone’s eating disorder.
What if we start reinforcing what we really value in one another?
For example, rather than commenting ‘you look so good!’ perhaps you can shift to:
•It’s so good to see you! I’ve missed spending time with you!”
•I’ve been looking forward to connecting
•I’ve wanted to hear about your trip/new job/puppy.”
•It’s always so great to have time together
When commenting on a picture/post consider focusing on the emotions such as:
•”You all look so happy. I can feel the joy!’
• “It looks like you’re having so much fun!”
• “So glad you could spend the holiday with your family/friends/etc”
Let’s start reinforcing the parts of people and experiences that really MATTER. We dont value people for their bodies/appearance. Diet culture does and this has led to body based/appearance based comments being normalized. Lets remind eachother that what we value in each other is so much more than our bodies.
*and of course you can compliment someone’s outfit,
hair, jewelry etc but perhaps you can also relate this to them more:
•”I love your sweater. The color is beautiful. Is it comfortable?”
•”Love your outfit. You’ve got great style.”
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