New Pattern Counseling

09/03/2024

Happy Return to School!
If you're stressed, or finding your compulsive stress responses are still going, then we've got your back!
New Pattern Counseling is accepting new clients for individual and group work. We love to be with you in all your distress, and the victories that come afterwards!

Individual and Group Therapy for Compulsive Behavior and Addiction

08/29/2023

6 years ago I took the plunge into private practice...really with no sensible back-up plan.
Through the mercies of God, the prayers of St. Xenia of St. Petersburg and lots of other people, and a bit of hustling, what started in a shoe-box of an office has now grown into a recovery and trauma focused clinic sporting an office with lots of windows, a HUGE lobby, and a group of very excellent clinicians!
It's been quite a ride, and I am thankful for everyone who inspired confidence in me. Also grateful to people who made me slow down and learn how to do the details.

So then - tell your friends and family - for problems with addiction, trauma, relationships, sexuality, spirituality...or to just go on supported journey of self-discovery....
NEW PATTERN COUNSELING is accepting new clients!!

04/05/2023

What's the relationship between Money and Mental Health?
Between Stewardship and Sobriety?
Between Fiscal matters and Faith?
In this most practical of interviews, I interview Dino Biaggi, the Financial Literacy Manager at Birch Community Services, and we unpack all these questions.
For the clinicians out there, we make frequent references to Addiction Interaction and underlying narratives from our families of origin.
For the literature buffs and Tolkien fans, Yes, we do also reference the Steward of Gondor.

‎Health & Fitness · 2023

04/05/2023

‎Health & Fitness · 2023

07/01/2020

Jesus loves me, this I know…if my parents were attuned to my emotions…and if my church presented God as a secure attachment figure. Easy. Right? Well…

Rhys Pasimio and Krispin Mayfield tackle the intersections, tensions, and sometimes contradictions between Attachment Science and Theological beliefs and practices typical of many American Protestant Evangelical Churches. We compare and contrast Protestant concepts of God, Sin, Love and Relationship with the same concepts viewed from perspectives of Attachment Science, and Eastern Orthodoxy. We look at how healthy attachment is formed, how healthy attachment is confused, and what counselors and churches can do differently as we nurture our people.

Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com
Krispin Mayfield – krispinmayfield.com

Krispin can also be found on the podcast Attached to the Invisible, at
https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/prophetic-imagination-station/attached-to-the-invisible

Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks!

Jesus loves me, this I know…if my parents were attuned to my feelings…and if my church presented God as a secure attachment figure. Easy. Right? Well… Rhys Pasimio and Krispin Mayfield tackle the int

06/25/2020

Let's say you have a teenager or young adult child who needs support for mental health and/or recovery challenges. What would you do? Where would you turn?
Consider Newport Academy!
Marcus Robinson introduces the vision and method of Newport Academy's inpatient program, in particular the skillful and holistic application of Attachment Based Family Therapy.
Newport is currently accepting new clients, but let the inquiring family member beware; recovery and mental health are not a spectator sports - the whole family gets involved!

This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals:
Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com
Marcus Robinson - marcus.robinson@newportacademy.com

Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks!

Let's say you have a teenager or young adult child who needs support for mental health and/or recovery challenges. What would you do? Where would you turn? Consider Newport Academy! Marcus Robinson in

06/09/2020

When you become aware that you have had a damaging impact on a person, or that your group of people has had an oppressive impact on another people group, what does it cost you to believe them, to center their experience, and for a time prioritize it?
What is difficult about considering that these things they says about you may be true?
What makes it even more difficult to consider these experiences may be a result of your actions?
To the individual or group confused by defensiveness, rage, “over-reaction,” and things like protests, consider that after the devastation of betrayal, deceit, gaslighting, abuse, and dehumanizing they have experienced, that rage is the only way they feel safe to show up with you?
Consider that beneath the anger is grief. Deep sadness. Profound loss. Even fear and terror.
Consider that the abrasiveness of their words and gestures are their reaction to your impact on them.
We need to listen to their words, and make space for their feelings, and prioritize their experience!

Rhys Pasimio explores a parallel between the experiences of betrayal trauma and systemic racism, and issues a challenge to those who have inflicted harm to consider and own the impact of their actions

05/26/2020

“We have to attend to what’s lost when we make changes, even when the changes are good.”
At the onset of the Corona Virus, the counseling community migrated en masse to providing primarily, and sometimes exclusively, telehealth services. Rhys Pasimio and Aaron Kelsay reflect on this transition, what our therapeutic relationships have gained, and what we have lost.
This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals:
Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com
Aaron Kelsay – akelsay@voaor.org

Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks!

“We have to attend to what’s lost when we make changes, even when the changes are good.” At the onset of the Corona Virus, the counseling community migrated en masse to providing primarily, and someti

04/29/2020

What are the barriers to lasting change? Turns out some of the biggest are internal, and have to do with relationships.
Rhys Pasimio and Ben Poling have a conversation with CSAT colleague Stephen Grant and discuss how change happens. We talk about First and Second Order Change, (changing behaviors, then changing motivations and internal values) and Grant introduces the concept of Third Order Change - Changing relationships to self, others, the world, and God. Along the way, we give nods to Internal Family Systems Theory.
Grant also gives a brief introduction to ART – Accelerated Resolution Therapy, and changing the way we experience memories, particularly trigger memories.

This episode of SMART Counsel features the following professionals:
Rhys Pasimio – rhys@newpatterncounseling.com
Ben Poling - benpolingcounseling.com
Stephen Black– gracefallcounseling.com

Please visit www.patreon.com/smartcounsel to learn how you can support the podcast. Thanks!

What are the barriers to lasting change? Turns out some of the biggest are internal, and have to do with relationships. Rhys Pasimio and Ben Poling have a conversation with CSAT colleague Stephen Gran

04/14/2020

Rhys and Nick venture into a conversation about Feminism! We explore what feminism is, how it benefits women, and how it benefits men. We reflect on our own experiences and challenges with growing up as men surrounded by toxic masculinity and how adopting some feminist ideas is leading to healthier and more self-aware lives. Along the way, we call out some trends in both the church and the counseling world on how power is managed, how knowing is understood, and how we relate to people, and offer some ideas and hopes for how we can all continue growing together.

Rhys and Nick venture into a conversation about Feminism! We explore what feminism is, how it benefits women, and how it benefits men. We reflect on our own experiences and challenges with growing up

04/07/2020

Need a break from the Corona Virus? Let’s talk about culture and diversity!
The counseling relationship is marked by a stark power differential that is only made starker by differences in race, class, gender, education, sexual orientation, physical ability, and many other factors. How do we consider the power differential and work for what is best for the other person, while neither dismissing their problems, nor perpetuating systemic oppression? What are the cultures to consider, and who are the vulnerable people? Aaron Kelsay shares his experience of providing addiction counseling services to clients of diverse racial and class backgrounds. We consider how to consider the impact of our Whiteness and discuss striving for a mindset of cultural humility versus trying to master cultural competency skills. Along the way, we question established treatment structures, such as the 12-Steps, that came from privilege and tend to support privilege. We advise against use of jargon without first spending time in relationship earning the right to speak. Through it all, we challenge each other, and other professionals with power to be mindful of the space they occupy, and to always seek to learn from others and be willing to grow and change.

Need a break from the Corona Virus? Let’s talk about culture and diversity! The counseling relationship is marked by a stark power differential that is only made starker by differences in race, class,