06/25/2025
Asking For & Letting Yourself Receive Support
I couldn’t hold the frequency of receiving support.
I felt resistant to it.
I felt a tightness in my body.
I was raised to be hyper-independent — never needing anyone.
And then I got diagnosed with a rare bone disease, which forced me to require support via crutches, cane, wheelchair, etc.
It also required me to need help from others around me.
Through the past 8 years of my diagnosis, I’ve gotten better at asking for help.
But goodness gracious, I hated it.
I was making it mean something about me.
If I couldn’t be independent that meant I wasn’t enough. I was a burden.
It meant that every time I asked for help, it was giving my power away.
I craved control because I was forced to give so much of it away to my experience.
It wasn’t until April of this year that I really felt into the root cause of this resistance.
It was time for a change.
I decided that every time I asked for help, it was amplifying my power, instead of giving it away.
I let myself surrender control of my experience, so I could accept and receive the support.
Now every time I ask for help, I get to infuse it with love, compassion, and gratitude.
Because that’s really what support is.
We’ve been so conditioned in the Western world to be independent. But ancient humans have always worked in community.
We need each other. Not just to survive, but also to thrive.
************************************
