03/30/2026
Do you have a hard time accepting compliments?
I was dropping off a marriage license this morning and it reminded me of the first wedding I ever officiated.
Do you know what I remembered about that day for years?
Not how beautiful it was.
Not how happy everyone was.
I remembered the mistake I made on the license. đ¤Śââď¸
One small, common error , and that's all my brain held onto.
When I looked at my life honestly, I realized this was a pattern. Feedback would come in mostly positive, but there were always opportunities to improve , and I would only hear what I perceived as negative...the thing I didn't do or could have done better.
The rest just... disappeared.
Here's what I've learned since then:
That's not a character flaw. That's our brain doing exactly what it's been trained to do.
When our self-concept isn't fully positive, when we don't feel truly worthy, our brain automatically:
đš Deletes the wins
đš Distorts the compliments
đš Generalizes every mistake
All to match the story it already believes about us.
And here's the thing --- that story isn't true. It never was.
There is nothing wrong with you. This is simply how our brains work. And when we understand why it happens, we can finally begin to change it.
⨠If you're ready to go deeper with this work, I'd love for you to join me on April 11th for the Step Into Your Power retreat in Farmington, CT.
We'll spend the day in community, creativity, and reflection - reconnecting with who you truly are beneath the old stories.
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