04/21/2026
Over the past 6 years as a therapist specializing in perinatal mental health (and almost 6 years as a mom) this is the “advice” that I find myself repeating and coming back to. What I wish someone would have laid out for me on day 1. But at the same time, so much of this comes along with the journey of motherhood, throughout all the tough moments and little mistakes.
Lately, the reminder that “not everything is mine to fix” has been a big one and it’s helped me step back, pick my battles, and let some things just be.
And the “four quarters” mindset has probably saved more days than I can count, and something I encourage almost all of my therapy clients to try. it reminds me that a hard moment doesn’t define the whole day. And also serves as little check points throughout the day to make sure I’m meeting my basic needs too.
But maybe the one that stays with me the most is this: we expect so much from mothers without always recognizing that they’re new to this too. Matrescence is a whole developmental stage where mothers are changing emotionally, mentally, spiritually, socially, physically. Moms deserve so much more support. So I hope this post and my page helps in some small way. 🩷
