12/10/2025
This one hit me like a ton of bricks when I became a mom in 2020. As someone who always thrive in an academic setting, has two masters degrees, and was always eager to please, and go “above and beyond” in every job I ever had as an employee, then becoming a mom, I was consumed by constantly needing to know the “right” way to do things.
As millennials born in the mid 80s and the 90s, we were fed this idea that by shear determination and optimism that as we grew up we could “have it all”. there were no systems in place or changes to our society to actually support this.
And then now as millennial moms, we are left feeling like we’ve somehow failed or that we need to just try harder or do more, or many moms even deciding to completely pull back on working outside of the home in their careers and attempt to try to manage all the different areas of life.
We were raised to constantly achieve, overperform, and to make it look easy. So many things about motherhood unlocked that this is all not possible and perfection does not exist.
If you feel like you’re “failing” because you can’t do it all, please hear this: you’re not failing. You’re just finally up against something that can’t be fixed with more effort, more studying, or more self-sacrifice.
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