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03/15/2026

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03/15/2026

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03/07/2026

There’s something no one really prepares you for after you lose a spouse, the day you realize your heart has room to love again.

Not ‘instead’ of them…but alongside them.

When you’ve loved deeply and lost someone you thought you’d grow old with, love doesn’t just disappear. It lingers. It becomes part of who you are. And when love finds its way back into your life, whether you’re expecting it or not, it can feel confusing and terrifying all at once.

Because how do you love someone new, without feeling like you’re betraying the one you lost?

I remember the swirl of emotions so clearly. The joy of feeling connected again. The comfort of companionship.

And right behind it guilt.

Guilt for smiling. Guilt for feeling hopeful. Guilt for realizing that my heart was capable of holding joy again when someone I loved so deeply was no longer here to share it.

Grief is so damn messy and complicated.

There were days I felt like my heart was being pulled in two directions, loving someone who’s gone and loving someone who’s here. Some days it felt like betrayal. Other days it felt like survival. And often, it felt like both at the same time.

What I’ve learned is that love isn’t a limited resource. It doesn’t run out. It doesn’t replace.

Here’s the thing…it expands.

Loving again doesn’t erase the love you had. It doesn’t rewrite your story or diminish what came before. It just means your heart has grown big enough to hold more than one chapter.

There are moments of joy that catch you off guard, and peace that sneaks in when you least expect it. And then there are moments when guilt whispers, “Should I really be this happy?”

Those moments can sit right next to each other, and both can be true.

It doesn’t mean you’re forgetting, it just means you’re finding a way to keep loving.

Because loving again doesn’t mean you’ve moved on. It means you’ve carried love forward.

And that kind of love? It’s something to honor, not question.

And if you’re not there…or never will be…that’s okay too.

Gary Sturgis
Author: 'SURVIVING GRIEF - 365 Days A Year'