12/27/2025
The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy, connection, and celebration. For many police officers, however, the holidays can be one of the most emotionally challenging times of the year.
While others gather with loved ones, officers continue to work long hours, respond to crises, and carry the cumulative weight of stress, trauma, and responsibility, often in silence.
Understanding what officers experience during the holidays, and how families, friends, and communities can support them, is critical to protecting their mental health and overall well-being.
Police work does not pause for holidays. In fact, calls for service often increase due to heightened stress, alcohol use, domestic disputes, and mental health crises within the community.
Officers may face extended or unpredictable shifts, including nights, weekends, and holidays, missed family gatherings and traditions, leading to guilt or isolation. They may face Increased exposure to trauma, including suicides, overdoses, and family violence, cumulative stress and burnout, intensified by seasonal depression and fatigue.
For officers already struggling with anxiety, depression, PTSD, or unresolved critical incidents, the holidays can amplify emotional pain. The pressure to “hold it together” for family or coworkers often discourages them from speaking up.
Many officers compartmentalize their experiences, leaving work at the door in an effort to protect their families, but emotional stress does not simply disappear. Officers may become withdrawn, irritable, hypervigilant, or emotionally numb. Sleep disturbances, increased alcohol use, and physical exhaustion are also common.
The cultural expectation within law enforcement to remain strong and self-reliant can make it even harder for officers to ask for help, especially during a season that emphasizes happiness.
Family support is one of the strongest protective factors for officer mental health. Small, consistent actions can make a meaningful difference.
Listen without judgment or pressure. Officers may not want to share details, but knowing they are heard and supported matters.
Be patient with mood changes. Understand that irritability or withdrawal may be signs of stress, not a lack of care.
Maintain flexible traditions. Celebrate holidays when schedules allow, even if it means adjusting dates or routines.
Encourage rest and self-care. Sleep, healthy meals, and downtime are essential, not luxuries.
Normalize professional support. Therapy or peer support is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Friends often notice changes before others do. Simple gestures can have a powerful impact
Check in regularly, especially if an officer seems distant.
Invite them without pressure, understanding they may cancel at the last minute.
Avoid minimizing their experiences with phrases like “it could be worse”.
Be present, even if conversations stay light. Letting an officer know they are valued beyond the badge reinforces their identity as a person, not just a profession.
Community support plays a crucial role in officer wellness, particularly during the holidays.
Express appreciation respectfully. A genuine thank-you or note of support can go a long way.
Support officer wellness programs and nonprofits that focus on mental health resources.
Practice patience and empathy during interactions. Officers are human, too.
Reduce stigma around mental health, especially within public safety professions.
A community that supports its officers as people, not just responders, helps create a healthier and safer environment for everyone.
If you are an officer struggling during the holidays, know this, you are not alone, and you are not weak for feeling the weight you carry. Your mental health matters just as much as your service. Asking for help is not a failure, it is an act of courage and self-preservation.
The holidays can be difficult for police officers, but they do not have to be isolating. With understanding, compassion, and proactive support from families, friends, and communities, officers can feel seen, valued, and supported—on and off duty.
Taking care of those who protect us begins with recognizing their humanity and standing beside them, especially when the season feels heaviest.
Photo of Stop The Threat - Stop The Stigma Founder Captain Adam Meyers, CPS in December 2019 when he was a Police Detective in Wisconsin.
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