08/02/2025
I love this younger version of me.
From the outside, she's the picture of health and happiness.
She has a solid reputation as a holistic health coach, a svelte figure, and a handsome, successful husband who seemingly adores her.
What nobody saw was that she was socially isolated.
Living a life on someone else's terms in a place that didn't feel like home.
Where her opinions didn’t really matter.
She stayed quiet when people crossed the line — too afraid that speaking up would push them away.
Emotional abuse happens slowly over time by the people who are supposed to love you.
It can happen in marriages, with family members, or even trusted friendships.
It’s about what you’ve been conditioned to tolerate — the crappy breadcrumbs — for some semblance of belonging. Still, you can feel like an outsider.
These experiences, including my eventual, long, drawn-out divorce, broke me down and cracked me open.
Once I found the language to describe my experiences, I began to understand that a lot of the dysfunction around me wasn’t about me. Though I felt powerless to change how people saw me, I hadn’t yet learned how to stand up for myself. I was afraid I’d lose those people if I did.
But like the saying goes, once you know the truth, you can’t unlearn it.
When you see it, you smell it — and you can’t pretend anymore.
And once I had the words — dysfunction, narcissism, gaslighting, and all the rest that’s de rigueur these days — I started speaking my piece. The anger came out and boundaries emerged.
I even tried to keep some of those dysfunctional relationships going — especially when my dad died. Even during the six years I moved 10 times, trying to find a place to call home and rebuild a career from scratch.
During my search, I came across a modality that claimed to address the root cause of emotional pain, so I tried it immediately. Within a few sessions, the ruminations stopped, the nervous trembling disappeared, and even the night terrors halted. I felt grounded again — a newfound confidence I couldn’t deny.
🎊 Yippee! I didn’t have to pretend anymore. 🎊
This lead me to my new career as a Rapid Transformational Therapist, a method that gets to the root cause, reframes it, and transforms it. I’ve been quietly seeing clients (thank you word of mouth from my new colleagues and neighbors!), and my life finally has a focus that feels meaningful and fulfilling.
I help women and men — especially those navigating divorce or the unraveling of who they thought they had to be — reclaim their voice, rebuild their self-worth, and create lives that actually feel like theirs.
I wish I’d had someone like me back then — someone who got it, who could see through the mask, who wouldn’t have dismissed my concerns based on what things looked like from the outside. That’s why I do this work now.
Chances are, you consciously know that you don’t have to earn your enoughness.
But maybe you still have to let go of all the ways you’ve been taught to question it.
That’s the work.
That’s the invitation.
Please come say hello! 👋🏽 I'd love to hear from you, and you're welcome to share your experiences with me. 🗣️ And if you’re in that space where the old life doesn’t fit but the new one isn’t clear yet, reach out so we can talk.
Website: www.sandrakeros.com
IG: .keros
xoxo,
Sandra
