04/19/2025
Often times you'll hear people comment, "Life doesn't come with a handbook", or "Kids don't come with an instruction manual". But there was a time when both did. It was the time when the Elders were still a part of the core family, an integral part of the tribe. Imagine being faced with a hard decision and having the life experiences of a dozen people discussing possible outcomes. Imagine a great grandmother or grandfather helping tend to children as they weave life-lessons through story, play, and art. Imagine having support while navigating life.
Many of our Elders, in pursuit of a promised better life, chose a path that disconnected and isolated members of the core family. "No one snaps beans with grandma anymore" so all of her knowledge and wisdom is lost when she is gone. Kids spend every evening and weekend engulfed in school work and activities, so grandpa fishes or hunts alone, taking his experience with him.
Our modern society has segregated the core family. The village. Our tribes. And left so many people with a feeling of isolation and overwhelmed by the tasks that used to be shared by the hands of many. For those who do not wish to perpetuate this, become the Elder. Snap beans when there are kids around. Gather your future generations around you and plant a garden. Plan a fishing trip. Share your secret recipe. This world needs Elders now more than ever. And if yours were engulfed by the current societal construct, become the ones that your babies, babies will need.