12/25/2025
Merry Christmas &
2026 is coming!
Happy Christmas Eve 💫
I hope this message meets you gently, wherever you are, and however this season is landing for you.
The holidays can be beautiful… and they can also stir grief, memory, expectation, and longing. Sometimes all at once. Not everyone experiences this time of year as joyful, and there is nothing wrong with you if that’s true.
On a recent +Manifestation call, I chose to speak about expectations, because this time of year tends to amplify them (quietly, subtly) until they show up as stress, disappointment, anxiety, or a sense of being “off” without knowing why.
You might notice expectations here:
- when you reach out to someone expecting a certain response
- when you ask for something while already holding an outcome in mind
- when life doesn’t unfold the way you thought it should
Sometimes expectations aren’t personal at all. They’re simply energy moving through the field.
As someone who reflects collective consciousness, this season often feels heavy to me. There is a lot of tradition, repetition, and unconscious patterning woven into these days. For some, presence decreases while activity increases. Things can look bright on the surface, but underneath there is often pressure, obligation, and a low-grade anxiety that’s hard to explain.
If this resonates with you, you’re not alone.
For many, this season feels like:
- pressure without meaning
- expectation without presence
- ritual without consciousness
- movement without soul
When that happens, joy doesn’t disappear because something is wrong. It gets crowded out by collective noise. Many nervous systems are running old scripts instead of making conscious choices, and that creates a background tension most people can feel, even if they can’t name it.
Joy isn’t something you force.
It isn’t a switch you flip.
And it doesn’t exist inside coercion.
Sometimes the most honest place to land is neutrality.
You might try holding this truth instead of pushing for celebration:
“My nervous system is in observation mode, not celebration mode.”
That isn’t failure.
That’s wisdom.
This time can be liminal, a threshold rather than a party. Liminal spaces are quiet, unadorned, and not shiny… but they are deeply fertile. If we try to decorate a threshold, it tends to resist.
If you’re feeling tender, a few small things that may help:
* give yourself permission for a low-sensory holiday
* remove one obligation without replacing it
* sit with a candle or soft light for 10 minutes and do nothing productive
* say out loud: *“I don’t need to feel joy to be okay.”*
* let neutrality be enough for today
This isn’t darkness as something wrong.
It’s darkness as womb-space.
Rest.
Simplify.
Observe.
Joy returns when it’s clean — not when it’s demanded.
✨ Looking Ahead: Identity in 2026
As we move toward 2026, I’ve been sitting with one central question:
Who are you, really — beneath expectation, conditioning, survival patterns, and old scripts?
Identity matters because it shapes everything:
- how you relate to money
- how you experience love and intimacy
- how you hold power, desire, and creation
- how you manifest — consciously or unconsciously
That’s why, beginning January 6, 2026, I’m opening the doors to
The Alchemy of Identity.
Over the next 12 days, I’ll be sharing reflections, insights, and invitations leading up to it.
This work uses Money, Love, S*x, Magick + Manifestation as mirrors, not as goals to fix, but as gateways to understanding who you are being, what you’re carrying, and what you’re ready to release.
Current participants have shared things like:
- “They’ve brought me clarity and opened my mind.”
- “I’m dropping deeper and deeper into my body as I receive.”
- “It accelerated my transformative metamorphosis.”
- “There’s so much spaciousness — and crystal clarity around money, s*x, and manifestation.”
- “It’s helping me rewire my brain and what it produces.”
This is a live, embodied process, not a passive course.
And yes, it’s a quick turnaround. That’s intentional.
We’re starting soon.
The timing is alive.
And if you feel the pull, trust it.
More details will be coming shortly.
I’m deeply grateful to be walking this path with you.
With care,
Rebecca
P.S. Grief has a way of asking, “Who am I now?” If the holidays are stirring loss, change, or uncertainty, know that this question isn’t a problem to solve — it’s an invitation to listen. Identity often reveals itself most clearly in these quiet, in-between moments.
A Holiday Favorite! - Sticky Toffee Pudding
✨ Sticky Toffee Pudding (Moist, Rich & Foolproof)
Pan size: 8×9-inch (ideal depth)
Ingredients — Cake
½ lb Medjool dates (about 14), pitted and chopped
2 cups boiling water
2 cinnamon sticks (or 1 tsp ground cinnamon)
1 cup (8 oz) unsalted butter
2 cups dark brown sugar
1 vanilla bean, scraped (or 2 tsp vanilla extract)
2 large eggs
3 cups all-purpose flour
1 tsp baking soda
½–¾ cup reserved date soaking liquid
Optional but wonderful: 1 tbsp molasses or maple syrup
Ingredients — Toffee Sauce
2 cups heavy cream
2¼ cups dark brown sugar
2 sticks unsalted butter
Pinch of flaky sea salt (optional but recommended)
Sweetened whipped cream or vanilla ice cream, for serving
Instructions
1. Prepare the dates
Place chopped dates and cinnamon sticks in a heatproof bowl.
Pour boiling water over them and let sit 30 minutes.
Remove cinnamon sticks.
Reserve the soaking liquid — you’ll use it.
2. Make the batter
Preheat oven to 350°F. Butter an 8×9-inch baking dish.
In a large bowl, cream butter, brown sugar, and vanilla until light and fluffy.
Beat in eggs, one at a time.
In a separate bowl, whisk flour and baking soda.
Add dry ingredients to the butter mixture.
Stir in the softened dates.
Add ½ cup of the reserved date liquid (up to ¾ cup if batter feels thick).
Optional: stir in molasses or maple syrup.
👉 Batter should be thick but pourable, not stiff.
3. Bake
Pour batter into prepared pan and smooth the top.
Bake 45–55 minutes, checking at 45.
The center should spring back but still feel soft.
4. Make the toffee sauce
In a saucepan, bring cream and brown sugar to a gentle boil.
Add butter and stir until melted and smooth.
Finish with a pinch of flaky sea salt. Keep warm.
5. Soak the cake
While the cake is hot, poke holes all over the surface with a fork or skewer.
Pour 2 cups of hot toffee sauce over the cake.
Return to the oven for 5 minutes, just until the sauce bubbles around the edges.
Let rest 20–30 minutes to absorb.
6. Serve
Cut into squares and serve warm with whipped cream or ice cream and extra toffee sauce on the side.
✨ Even better the next day.
Notes from My Kitchen
This cake loves sauce, don’t be shy
The date liquid is the secret to moisture
This recipe freezes beautifully
Add 1–2 tbsp bourbon or rum to the sauce for a grown-up version
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