01/18/2026
If feeding your baby hasn’t gone the way you imagined, please hear this IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT
Infant feeding is incredibly complex. So much more goes into it than effort, love, or “doing everything right”
Sometimes there are physical and anatomical challenges—like tongue ties, lip ties, a high palate, muscle tension, or torticollis—that can make feeding harder for both baby and parent ❤️
On the parent side, things like clogged ducts, ni**le blebs, low milk supply, oversupply, or an overactive letdown can add pain and frustration to an already vulnerable time
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When these challenges show up, it may mean adjusting or changing the original feeding plan you had hoped for. And that can be really hard
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Grieving the feeding journey you envisioned while trying to meet your baby’s needs in real time is exhausting. You’re allowed to feel disappointed, sad, confused, or overwhelmed—sometimes all at once
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What matters most is not how your baby is fed, but that you and your baby are supported throughout the process.
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Having an IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant) assess feeding, identify what’s going on, and offer individualized strategies and hands-on techniques can make a huge difference. Sometimes small changes bring big relief. Sometimes support helps you find a new path that feels more sustainable and aligned with your family’s needs. Either way, you don’t have to navigate this alone
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Feeding your baby is not a test you pass or fail. It’s a relationship—and relationships deserve compassion, flexibility, and support
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