02/09/2026
The incessant scrolling, scouring every bit of information you can get your hands on.
Seeing what *she* did, how *she* got there, how many calories *she* had to eat, what exercise *she* could still do…
Might be the very thing that is keeping you stuck.
I say this with so much compassion, because I was there.
I did the very same thing for quite some time.
What so many women, including myself at the time, don’t realize is how this pattern is keeping them stagnant and feeding into ruminations.
Our nervous systems are *wise*.
They are constantly scanning our environments, both internally and externally, for cues of safety vs. cues of threat through a process called neuroception.
When your brain is continuously processing information centered around:
“How do I fix this”
“Something is/I am wrong”
“Why could that woman do this, but I can’t”
“Tell me what I need to do”
Your body registers danger. If you're constantly scanning for something to save you, constantly in a state of hypervigilance, you must not be safe.
Excessive inputs of fear, fix, threat = Sustained survival states.
Sustained survival state ≠Environment for healing, reproduction, digestion, libido, intuition.
Constant information flooding often leads to a positive feedback loop with negative consequences (thank you to my teacher, )— perpetuating your body's felt sense of hypervigilance and survival.
An invitation🫶🏻
What might it look and feel like to swap out your next HA doom scroll for something that brings your body a felt sense of ease, okay-ness, pleasure, safety?
Stepping out in nature.
Cuddling with a cozy blanket or pet.
Reading a good book.
Embodied writing.
Sipping a warm drink.
I know the incessant information gathering can feel SO productive, but I'd ask you to reflect: how productive is it, really?
Information gathering, staying stuck in the mind thinking about recovery, is a sneaky (yet very wise adaptive) strategy to avoid action and feeling.
True healing begins when we can notice the patterns keeping us stuck (with compassion), choose another path, and show our bodies the felt sense experience of safety.
I'd love to guide you🤎
Em